What am I missing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2004
What am I missing?
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:10pm
Hello,

I am new to these boards and I am a new single mom of two. I was married for over 13 years and I was the old fashioned girl next door when I was married and have only been with one man, my ex. Needless to say.....the dating world, especially for those of us in our early 30's is a jungle and I am not used to it at all. Quite frankly, I'm downright terrified by it! I have re-entered the dating world and I don't really frequent clubs or anything like that but I am still fairly young, intelligent, etc. I seem to be attracting the so called "playboy" types and while I consider a couple of them friends that I have had for awhile and find them to be generally nice people....I don't understand 1) why I am attracting this type.....are there more of them than I thought, who openly admit they want no strings?? 2) Why my male friends that are that way offer the "FWB" thing??

Please explain why there is so much of this, and if there is......why in the world are women agreeing to this?? I would just like honest opinions about it. Both from men and women. For those women who do.....how do you seperate. I am very confused about the way people date these days and would love to hear feedback and other stories. Thanks, in advance.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2004
In reply to: katlc
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:45pm
Katlc:

When you least expect it, and when you're not even looking, that's when someone will come along. In the meantime, getting yourself healthy is the most important thing, especially after an abusive relationship. Take time for yourself and make the most of the time that you have alone, if you have any time alone. Working on being the best person you can be benefits everyone -- yourself, your children, and any man you choose to date when you choose to date. Keep you chin up, and good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2004
In reply to: katlc
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 9:07pm
Thanks again!!

What is that old saying?? "From your mouth to God's ears". I think that's it. (I'm not overly religous so I hope I got that right?) I really hope someone enters my life someday and wants a sweet old fashioned girl who would love to be treated good for once. You have twins?? That is great!!! I always wanted twins....a little late now?! Maybe not?? My father is a twin and it has been around the family here and there. They must be fun!! Good luck to you again!!!!

katlc

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