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| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:36pm |
Okay - so you all remember my MrRunner story from a few months ago. Just to get you up to speed in case you missed the post, he is a runner I have known for some time. We were in the same running training group about 6 years ago. He was always one of the fastest - kind of quiet - kept to himself.
One night, when I took first place in my race, a first, believe me, DS and I went out to eat to celebrate. I ran into him in the restaurant and piped up cheerily and said hey how are you. We talked just briefly because we were on the way to the table. He was having dinner with another couple who is the neighbor to my sister.
So I messaged that to my sister - that I saw her neighbors. Anyway, turns out that my sister's neighbor and friend is his sister in law (married to his brother). Those two thought it would be so much fun (these two really need to get a job or something) to set us up. But MrRunner had his own mind and plans - although they gave him my cell number he looked up my house phone and called. He wanted to ask me about my training to do three sports instead of just running because his knee is bothering him. So he rides his bike with me.
But it turns at, at least in my eyes, that he doesn't want to date or do anything romantic. He wants to call me in the middle of my work day and blab about his training. He does that like 5 or 6 times. And then he wants to ride his bike every weekend with me. That line is cute for the intro but to me it got old and I felt like he was only interested in entertaining himself since he couldn't run with all the marathoners anymore. I want someone who has a romantic interest in me and who will at least ask me for coffee - not just call to talk about himself.
And my sister found out he had a most horrific marriage with a woman who sounds bipolar at best. She moved out of state with his kids and always demands more money and they are still not civil after many years.
So I became like a guy and stopped taking his calls.
OKay.
So tonight would you believe that the two of us drove to the same park to run at the same time and park right next to each other? We never saw each other until the end.
I acted like hey how are you - and we chatted. And that was that. You would think if he was interested he would want to go and grab a coffee or bite to eat. But no - have a good night. LOL!!

Wow; I am always impressed at your networks!
Thanks, Soonee! I know you have been up to your ear lobes with your life's events, to say the least. I feel honored that you can pop in and give me a cheer!! I hope you and the kids are doing okay.
The funny thing is that my sister just looks at the money his family has and how he took his kids to the country club for brunch on Sunday. She is totally clueless about dating in today's world, never mind if you are divorced with kids.
My point is that if he was into me and wanting something even a little romantic, he would have taken me for coffee after our first bike ride - or after that ride he would call and ask me for coffee, lunch, dinner - anything - not just call and blab and blab about what is he to do now that he has trashed his knees and can't run 60 miles per week.
My sister doesn't understand that if a man has gone through a horrid marriage and divorce he might not dip his toe. She doesn't see that I cannot fix that - he has to fix that - and I know I cannot change it. All I can do is say no thank you.
Of course I would always be gracious to him in public - because I do understand his pain and I know he did not intentionally try to irriate or disappoint me or whatever. It is what it is.
So, thanks for the ear. I know that all of you understand where I am coming from - that is why we all have this board. Because not everyone understands what it is like to be a single mom and to have to navigate today's dating world, never mind with kids.