What are your thoughts on roommates?

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What are your thoughts on roommates?
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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 12:22pm
what do you think of a older guy who has a roommate? It makes me think they have financial issues and have no other choice but to have someone split bills. What are your thoughts on that? Would you date someone who had one?

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 3:32pm

Yes you make a point there...


Would you rather date a man who is holding on for dear life for his own place going deeper and deeper in debt from a costly divorce? Or, would you rather date the man that says ok, I'm going through a hiccup in life, and lets see where I can cut costs so I can come out of this a survivor? I vote that I date the smart one.. ya know?


There is a difference in "financial issues" here that I personally see. Those who did it to themselves from stupid decisions and irresponsible acts, and those who are going about it the smart way to come out of it. I have nothing but respect for those who struggle to better their life.


Lets face the facts that most men lose their house, furniture, and savings account through a divorce. Seriously, its a fact. In my case I was the one who lost everything.


Ok, so I know this guy.. a police officer. We all know they don't make tons of money but its a respectible job ya know? Well his ex wife lives in NYC with their daughter. Because its NYC and the cost of living and childcare he pays 1200.00 a month in child support. 1200.00 on a police officer salary?!?! Ouch! Granted, I am not and will not be dating this man.. but not for that reason.

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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 4:59pm

The engineer I dated paid $4300 a month for child support and alimony and on top of that he had to pay %1000 per year per kid (2) for camp! Ouch.

My sister, the pilot, said her income was off the states scale for guidelines on child support. So they had to make up an amount based on what they thought was reasonable for her to pay. Her husband had custody since she traveled for work.

Laurie

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 5:07pm

Anyhow to answer your question, I would rather date a guy who bit the bullet and got a roommate to help out.

Also NY is the worst place to get divorced if youre a man. The engineer was divorced there. Thats why he got screwed.

My sister was also the one who lost everything and had to start all over.

You have an interesting job and get to meet a lot of people.

Laurie

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 8:47pm

Hey, look at ME. Im living in 400sq ft, 5 months a year to make it by.

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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:16pm

did you read my roommate story... LOL...


most guys i know who are single have roommates. Maybe it's a bachelor thing? Also i think it's because there are not a lot of one bedroom places that are nice... guys who rent houses or town houses, for example. If it's a three bedroom place, why not share it with someone?


I never thought of it as an indication of financial hardship... but you could be right.


loonybunny

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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:29pm

I wouldn't have an issue with it.

A lot of you mentioned a guy that lives with his parents as a bad sign. I want to add that I live with my dad. I do it because it is cheaper for me and there is no way I could afford a home this nice. Plus as a single mom whose kids have almost zero contact with their dad I think it is important for them to have a male influence. My dad stays here during the week and he helps with childcare saving me quite a bit of money. On the weekends he goes to his girlfriends house.

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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 6:59am
It would not worry me. I have a male friend who rents a room to someone to help with costs. He's not hard up, but very sensible with money. He tried to talk me into getting a house mate but I'm afraid I like having my own place (& I like wandering around in various stages of undress too!).
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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:07am
I've actually considered advertising for a roommate.

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