What to do?

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Registered: 05-02-2000
What to do?
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:20pm
Hello, I am a 30 yr old single mother to a wonderful 11 month old son. I tried eharmony to find a decent human being to try to start a relationship with. I made contact with a nice man (nice meaning gainfully employed, doesn't push me/demand my time). Problem, I am terrified to phone him. I live with my parents due to losing my job after having my son. I am working full time, but cannot afford to move out, yet. How do I start to date? Do I tell this man that maybe he should go on and I just forget about dating for now? I am confused. I don't know what to do. He wants me to call him, I keep appologizing for not calling. Now I feel like an idiot. Christy

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 5:10pm

I lived with my parents for 2 years while going through a nasty custody dispute/divorce. After the divorce was final, I lived with my parents for an additional year. I told potential dates upfront that I was living with my parents. I didn't make a big deal out of it.

During that time, I had one significant relationship that ended on my own terms. No regrets.

I think you need to do what feels good for you. However, I would not call that man. If he wants to see you, he needs to call you *period*. When men throw that line out there, "call me," that means they aren't too interested and aren't even willing to make the effort of placing the first phone call.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 1:52am
I see NO reason why someone would look at you as a gold digger b/c you had a hard time & need to provide a safe place for your baby to live.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 1:55am

You DONT tell them right away. You simply say that you are a divorced mom b/c your H wasnt who you thought he was when you married him. But of coruse you woudlnt change a thing b/c look what you have from it, a beautiful son.


I was also in an abusive marriage ... little by little my guy has an idea of what it was all about, but he has

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 2:01am
This is what I say in my Match profile (or something like it) "My daughter (age 7) & I are doing great on our own, but it would be nice to have some romance back in my life once & a while."

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 2:02am
Yeah, i wouldnt call either. WhenEVER a guy sends his # & says "call me" & say "Nope, sorry, I dont call you 1st. Here's my number". Period.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 7:42am
That is a really good way to put it!

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