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what do i do and how
| Fri, 08-25-2006 - 12:11am |
i've been going to the chiropractor because i was in a car accident a couple weeks back, yesterday i started the physical therapy part, today was my second day, and the guy that does the exercise part touched me where he shouldn't....i called bf right after i got out of there when it hit me just how guilty, dirty, and violated i felt, so i broke down and told him and i don't know what to do, i told my mom who in turn told everyone in my family, i feel so embarassed so wrong, they all want me to file a police report but i don't want to go into details or relive it, i realize just how quick this changed who and how i am, i couldn't even let my bf touch me and i can't stop crying, they all say it wasn't my fault, but i was so scared and shocked i didn't say anything, i moved to where he'd realize i didn't want to be touched but i didn't say anything.....and i don't know what happens after the police report i don't want to go to court, it's bad enough my family know's i don't want to, it's easy to say some of it here cuz it's over the computer, but i don't think i could have everyone i know, know i feel so ashamed and i just want to forget it

Are you SURE it was a deliberate fondle and not just a slip of the hand while helping you move your body through the therapy?
Honey,
(((((HUGS)))))
I agree, it does seem like it was purposeful.
I think you know what you have to do. It'll be very hard, no doubt. You HAVE to report this guy. I would start with the physical therapist state board and if THEY don't go to the police, then YOU have to. I wouldn't expect the manager/owner to do anything, as this will may impact the company negatively. If he was brazen enough to violate you repeatedly, then he has undoubtedly done this to others.
You have to gather your courage and just do it. You've probably had moments of strength when you said "I'm going to turn this dirtbag in." In the moment, just do it. Call 911, if that's what it takes. They will transfer you to the right person and it won't give you the opportunity to change your mind while locating the proper number or driving down. Once the ball is rolling, you'll be able to handle it becuase you are strong.
You know you did absolutely nothing wrong. You even gave him the benefit of the doubt and he continued to push. You have nothing to feel ashamed about.
Jennifer
Edited 8/25/2006 12:32 pm ET by jenway99
I just spoke to my friend who happens to be the CEO of the California Physical Therapists Association.
She said the best course of action would be to contact the state licensing board, the police, and the owner/manager. She said definately alert the board and know that they will ask if you have filed a police report.
Good luck and talk to us if you need to!
Jennifer
Roxanne,
This is very unfortunate and totally not your fault. Not to mention unnerving - I can understand totally why you are upset.
You have received great advice here. The only thing I have to add is that I think you should sleep on it and then decide what is best for YOU to do.
Good luck!
Take care :)