What do you think of this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2008
What do you think of this?
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Sun, 06-29-2008 - 3:42pm

I am fairly sick of being asked out by guys who DO NOT want to pay for me meaning dinner or drinks or anything. So I have had a few new responses from my POF ad. I basically told one guy I was sick of paying half and it would be nice to go on a date with a guy who is gentleman enough to PAY. He said that seemed like I was a gold digger! ME A GOLD DIGGER? I can pay my half...that was not the point at all.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 5:56pm

I don't remember if anyone has brought this up, but the cost of the sitter can be equivalent to the cost of the date.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2006
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 6:21pm
oh thats a good point. I hadnt thought of that.
Only the guy could also be a single parent and have to pay for his own sitter I suppose making it even...still though for most of the dates I have had that is not the case - even when they are single Dads they have the kids living with the ex...
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 9:05pm

They should pay if they ask you out - that is their part of dating and a gesture in courtship by someone who has a genuine interest in you and wants a relationship. I would not mind an informal coffee meeting or a glass of wine for a quick happy hour meeting - those are not expensive and they can afford that.

I do not think you should tell them that - but to screen them so you know it won't be a question. The other thing to consider - is that POF is free - I have found that it just is not the same in quality as Match or EH.

If you are really strapped right now with the dog then perhaps take a break until you feel better and maybe have some money to invest in the pay sites?

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