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| Wed, 05-21-2008 - 10:17pm |
He is hard to explain but I will do my best. Been friends with him for over a year. Got close once to him and when it was about to become physical he backed off. So we decided to keep seeing each other but casually. He does not date anyone else and I have no reason to think he is behind my back. He is 47, never been married, no kids. Was engaged once but broke that off. The woman he was engaged to had two sides, one very nice, one very mean. I sense that he wants to get closer to me and have an exclusive relationship but he seems afraid. Like he is in self protect mode.
I know for sure he is comfortable being single. But he was mentioned getting a place with me after my middle child graduates next year. So he is on the fence.
The frustrating part is he seems an arms length away at all times. I am so very attracted to him and think the world of him. So we get together, go for walks, dinner, shopping, talk about interesting and controversial topics and then he hugs me and we both go home. He smiles and goes on with his day and I bang my head against the wall.
Oh and he is Christian and his religion is very important to him.
I want to learn more about him and find out what happened in the last relationship and if he is still hurting from it.
Any thoughts?
Laurie

Hmmm... thoughts?
Keep dating and don't get stuck on him or try to figure out WHY. WHY is not as important as WHAT meaning what he does. He has had ample opportunity to ask you out and if you only focus on him you may waste a lot of time. But if you are out dating and trying to meet new people you will meet the one. Just my .02.....
Being a Christian, he may not believe in pre-marital sex.
You are right. We need to talk. But you have interesting ideas. One (asexual) that I never even considered.
Thanks
Laurie
Moon!!
I was going to respond to this at 3am but my keyboard froze up.
I think the asexual thing is interesting but I think its more religious beliefs that hold him back.
I was supposed to meet a man I had been chatting with online today but was actually glad