What does "being cautious" really mean

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Registered: 02-24-2011
What does "being cautious" really mean
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 9:09pm
Hello, things have slowed down this week. I'm sorta disappointed. I'm sure it just girlie thinking but I went ahead and asked him if he was still interested... I couldn't help myself because I'm pmsing and my mind was going nuts (emotional)... So his response was "Cancer, you think too much. Yes I am interested. I'm just being very cautious. You give me a great deal to think about"

Any ideas/guesses as to what he meant by that? I kinda feel like cautious means not interested. But I'm suffering from mood swings this week so an outside perspective is appreciated.... Thanks.

Btw, no second date yet. I'm bummed about that and trying my hardest to be patient and not discouraged. We still talk.... Still flirt... But I would think if he was really interested he'd want to go out again. Thoughts?

Going girlie nuts,
Pepper
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 10:40pm

Do you think he's worried about getting involved w/ a single mom?

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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 12:36am
I don't know... But I feel really discouraged tonight. I feel like any time I meet a "normal" guy, he doesn't like the single mom thing... And then I feel like I only attract losers.

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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 10:35am

I don't remember how old you are but I'd say there are really a lot of guys who are ok w/ dating a single mom.

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Aha moment... He's just doing that guy thing called "rubber banding" or pulling away. All is not lost...

Today I fought every bone on my body not to ask him what was wrong... At times it felt like I was flat out ignoring him. But then it happened, near the end of the day he started coming over to me. A little chit chat here and there... And he said "I've got to tell you about how crappy my week has been".

Phew. I can breath again. It isn't something I did or said. He was just being a guy. Retreating into his man space ... asserting his freedom... etc.

So we shall see how long this lasts and how soon he snaps back...

Wish me patience and caring,
Pepper