What goes through his mind?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
What goes through his mind?
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Sun, 02-12-2006 - 4:11pm

My ex is the most- UGH!!


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Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:03pm

Do you think your exh was just on a snowboarding trip?

You are right, he doesn't make any sense. But at least he is calling and getting something for your son.

You don't have to take him snowboarding - but maybe you can find a creative use for the snowboard? Or better still N and his friends can do that. Like use it in a fort, or in a mud puddle in the backyard or on the beach? Or just in case you ever go to the snow?

I think you should just say - "look what daddy sent you! Maybe when you get a little bigger you two can snowboard. I am sure you will find fun ways to use it."

While you do have J, it is so sad that Nic doesn't have his real dad in any kind of stable position in his life. Think if that was you in place of Nic - how would you feel? I think you should promote their relationship in any way you can as long as it is safe for Nic and leave your feelings out of it.

I know you don't see eye to eye with your exh and that he was horrible to you. But it could be much worse with him - just manage whatever comes your way so Nic can attain some sort of benefit.

Good luck!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:17pm

Judy,


I do promote their relationship, but I do not trust my ex with my son.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 10:08pm

But it is the thought that counts and it is a gift - at least he is doing SOMETHING even if it does seem silly and impractical. It is kind of sad in a way that he doesn't realize with your son's age and location that it is not what he really needs - I think he is really out of touch with reality. I would not send it back - I would either throw it out or donate it to a charity.

I do understand that you won't allow them to be alone so you can protect Nicholas.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 10:40pm

The biggest problem is that he doesn' t listen.


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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 12:45pm

Hi Darling,


Though I understand you are between a rock and a hard place (believe me, I understand), I think you need to keep this gift; put it in the attic. No, you don't have to allow him to take your son anywhere.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 9:10pm

Well, I did ask Nicolas what he thought about selling the snowboard so that we could buy him something he could use- like a new scooter and rollerblades, and he very excitedly said yes!


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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 10:22am

I am glad that