What is happening to me....

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Registered: 03-25-2002
What is happening to me....
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 7:40pm

I'm getting hooked... that is what's happening...


Last night, TG was suppose to meet me for karaoke... I haven't been in over a week... and it's something i would do anyway... (trying to stay my normal self..) so i invite him to join me.. and thought i'd go back to his place after (remember all that talk about sausage from the other post... i was looking forward to it)... anyway, I get to the karaoke place and TG doesn't show...


I was very disappointed... i go by myself all the time so i don't know why i was feeling like an @$$ sitting by myself... maybe because i was expecting him, so i wasn't my usual open to meeting everyone self... instead i kinda sat alone and started getting mad that TG didn't show... I called him 5 or 10 times... began thinking he blew me off... okay another part of me thought he could have just fell asleep.. he worked hard all day and i work til 11 pm... But nevertheless, i was upset and disappointed.. and realized just how much i've been getting used to seeing him or talking to him... just how much i was getting used to his sweetness... And last night, i started thinking the worst and not liking myself for buying into it...


Okay, so he called my phone at 3 am.... i didn't pick up but he left a very apologetic vm saying he did fall asleep and felt horrible.... said he was afraid to check his vm and hoped i would still be talking to him... He called me again at 9 am hoping that i would forgive him for last night... Here's where i think i can pat myself on the back... i forgive, yes, but i didn't let him off the hook too easily... I told him honestly how I felt instead of saying... it's okay... I said, "honestly i felt like an @$$ sitting at the bar by myself waiting for you... Yes, i was pi$$ed that you didn't show. I was feeling quite stood up... it didn't feel good." He said sorry and that he felt terrible.. I don't think he slept well after he woke up at 3 am. He really wanted to see me... said he would never stand me up on purpose.. said he owes me one. And asked me how he can make it up to me.


First off, I'm relieved... i've been stood up many times before and usually that means the guy found another offer and usually also meant i'd never hear from them again. So, that didn't help in the lack of trust issue.. but I'm going to put it behind me. TG and i have talked again at dinner... I said if you truly didn't mean to then, let's put it behind us.... I know we have different work schedules... he works 7 am - 5 pm and i work 2 pm to 11 pm.. After a night together i can sleep in and he still has to work all day.... so i understand.


How would you make the guy... make it up to you? I should have told him he needs to buy me flowers or chocolate.. but i thought that would be too demanding... we've only been dating a couple weeks... I think if he takes me OUT tonight... that will suffice.


Was i too easy on him, too hard, or just right?


Loonybunny

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:54am

Phew.... i thought for sure i'd catch some flack about the cop..... and maybe i still might. It's still early...


He called last night and said he's been busy.... then just forgot to call.... he asked if i've been in town and i said yes..... and that i will be in town this saturday. I told him about my foot... the short version... I said i missed a couple steps and when i landed i broke my foot... he said, do you walk much? ha ha. He asked if i was wearing a cast or walking boot.... I said yes... and he said, hmmmm you must have a sexy walk right now.... I said, "yes i get joked at work all the time... a coworker (Kane) said I should buy two because they look like anti gravity space boots....." The cop laughed. I also told him about how I was planning on playing softball, but i guess that's not going to happen this year.... My former coworker texted me about a scrimmage game this weekend and my first reaction was, I'll be there.... but then i remembered... oh broken foot... i guess i can't play.


So the cop asked if i still wanted to get that cup of coffee... and maybe get to know each other a bit.... the plan is that he'll call me saturday afternoon.... He's working that day, but said he could meet at starbucks or something.... Innocent enough... We also joked again how he's the cop who arrested my husband five years ago.... I laughed and said, it makes a great story... And continuing with the joke he said, and i only arrested him because i thought you were cute... and i said, do you get all your dates that way.. how did it work out for you.... he said, we'll see....


TG and I have not had the "talk" and i have NO intention of sleeping with the cop..... it will be just conversation and coffee....


Back to TG.... he did take me out to dinner last night... and i observed how he treated the

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:06am

"Totally normal" ? Sure .... in a dysfunctional way! lol

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:09am
I agree.

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:11am
& i also meant to say that if someone in that situation offered to "Make it up to me", i would have responded "Just knowing you are sincere in your apology is enough" - but it sounds like things are ok - so thats good.

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:55am

Loony,


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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 11:20am

Thanks for the honest feedback... it's good to know when i've gone crazy... i value everyone letting me know.... and who posted this saying "i reserve the right to make a fool out of myself.... over love...." or something along those lines.... I am reserving that right...lol.... and i'll be the first to admit I'm LOOONY.....


I should really put my head back into work... i've got some exciting projects that i'm working on.... several of which are sure to be EMMY winners....!!!


Loonybunny


okay for my sake... nobody say the word sausage..... that's kinda a trigger for me....LOL... d'oh i just said it.


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Registered: 11-03-2003
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:05pm

As far as dating TG and the Cop simultaneously... as long as you're honest about dating (or sleeping with if it comes to that)

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:09pm

Not 28- according to roll call loony is 35 in july...



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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:17pm

I am sure she wouldn't mind being mistaken for 28, who am I kidding, she probably is all the time!


April

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:22pm

Well, I certainly understand being a little upset that he didn't show,


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