What is his deal?
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| Mon, 10-30-2006 - 8:46pm |
Good evening ladies. I'd love to hear what some of your takes are on this guy. I have been divorced for 2 years, and not really interested in meeting anyone or doing any dating until recently. I am a restaurant manager and this guy is a beer sales rep that comes in each week to take my orders. He's been my rep for about a year. We hit it off right from the beginning, could hang out and talk forever. A few times I'd screw up my courage and invite him out with me and some friends, casual stuff (ie "Hey we'll be out at so and so place tonight, if you're out you should stop by") Indirect, but non threatening. His response is always have to work early, have an early meeting, whatever. So I wrote him off as not interested. Cool. In the last two weeks, he's been staying longer than he needs to for order taking purposes, coming in on different days to eat lunch. Friday he came in to hang some posters (which took him 5 minutes), we stood in the dining room and talked for almost 3 hours (don't tell my boss). Friday night he was going out to do promotions, said I should call him and come out. I didn't b/c I had my kids. Today he came in to take order, again stayed around for much longer than needed, again is doing some promotions this week, said he'd call me to tell me where and when so I could come out. Now, I am wondering what is going on? The people I work with say he's into me, always flirts with me, if I'm not there he is in and out real fast. I have been saying they are wrong, he's just a nice guy.
Anyway, what should I do now? If he were to ask me out, I'd go without hesitation. I feel anytime I've tried to get him to do anything he totally shuts me down. I've tried the hanging out and having a beer angle, I've tried the doing stuff with kids angle (we have our kids on the same weekends). I am not that confident that I can be turned down repeatedly, but I realize I haven't outright "asked him out". Should I just hang back and see what comes of it? Should I keep on with the "we'll be here later" stuff? Should I write him off and keep him written off? Now I remember why I've not been interested for years...
Sheesh

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This is the golden point we all have to remember. It doesn't matter how you feel about him - he has to show REAL interest and ask you out. Until then it is best to hold your heart back and NOT get ahead of how it really is.
Easier said than done for sure.
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