What should I do?

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Registered: 07-09-2006
What should I do?
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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 8:45pm
I am a 19 year old single mother of 2. I have been working for Walgreens now for about 10 months, I actually just got switched to overnights and that is when everything started happening. This guy (Steven) comes into my store every friday and saturday night, he works as security for the apartment complex right behind my store so he always comes in and buys energy drinks and stuff like that to keep him awake at night. Anyways I asked him one day what he did for a living and he said that he is a detention officer. I told him that was pretty cool that one of my close friends just became one to, well it turned out that they had known each other for a while now so from there we started talking more and more often. Now I really like him alot, I mean he is really really cute and his personality is awesome. Well one day my friend (which is his friend too) went over to his house and called me from Stevens phone, which of course meant Steven now had my number. He called me about 11pm that night and we talked until 2am, at this point he asks me if I can go over to his house and hang out with him for a bit. I said yea, my kids were sleeping and I asked my mom to watch them which she said was no problem, so I went over there. The minute I got in his house I felt completely comfortable. I have never felt like that before, not even with my friends that I've had for 5+ years. We started to watch a movie and during the movie we started making out and everything like that, well one thing lead to another and lets just say I didn't go home until 8am. The following nights he was calling me all the time and talking to me and made it sound like he wanted to be with me. I fell hard for this boy, and I'm not the type of person to fall for someone that quickly. Everything was great until yesterday, He stopped calling and I tried to call him but didn't get an answer. Should I stop calling him? I mean I don't know what I did to make him mad at me, or even if he is mad at me. Is this just a test or should I keep trying to get ahold of him? I tried calling him today with no luck also. What should I do? I am going out of my mind, Any advice is welcome.
Much Thanks
Steats phx az
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 1:06am

Hi and welcome to the board.


I doubt it's a test with this guy, more like a brush-off, and you should just leave him be at this point.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 9:34am

I agree with Alison's opinion and advice.

Guys that want to "hook up" or "hang out" and make out/go to bed right off the bat usually want just that. Guys that want to formerly ask you out on a date and impress you are usually interested in more than sex. You might want to remember that for next time so you don't get caught in this trap.

I would definitely NOT call him. It doesn't matter how you feel about him - it matters how he sees you in his life and what he wants. It sounded like he just wanted a bit of fun for a night or two. Sorry that had to happen.

Good luck and we hope to see you post on our board more often - you will learn a lot here.

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