What was the good, the bad & the ugly...

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What was the good, the bad & the ugly...
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 8:39am
of your Thanksgiving? We usually have some sentimental stories, or a few really big whoppers! What were yours? LOL
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 11:26am

Catherine:

The good: I had my kids this holiday weekend. Thd day after Thanksgiving, we went downtown where I work then we went to see the enormous Christmas Tree (which is a big deal in Chicago) and we went to Rainforest Cafe for dinner (my kids' favorite place). I brought my five-year-old nephew along. He had never been on a train before, never saw the big Christmas tree, and never was at Rainforest Cafe, so watching him be so excited was a lot of fun. Then Saturday I took all three of them to see the Sponge Bob Square Pants movie, which they loved.

The bad: I had a birthday party to go to on Sunday at 3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. at a bowling alley. My kids were so excited. I spent 2 1/2 hours on the expressway in traffic (usually a 40 minute trip). I got there at 4:45. Kids very disappointed, but there was nothing I could do.

Also bad, I got a migraine on Thanksgiving, had to choke down food because I thought I was going to be sick. I've struggled, on and off, with this migraine every day since Thanksgiving. It was real bad yesterday. Family stress isn't helping. Holiday stress isn't helping either. I thought I was having a nervous breakdown yesterday, but I know if I felt better and did not have the migraine, I would have been able to handle the stress better. Plus, I always get the holiday blues around this time. That's always been a struggle for me.

The ugly: My family (Dad, oldest sister and of course little sis, in particular). How do I make a long story short? Little sis wants to be in on Christmas, but can't make it Christmas Day. Dad wants to bend over backwards for little sis and wants to change everyone else's plans. Oldest sis has an absolute coronary over the whole thing and has been fighting with everyone since Thanksgiving. Me: I'm sick and tired of the whole thing. I'm tired of arguing and I'm tired of hearing about it. I told dad to leave me out of it, let me know where I need to be and at what time. I have enough stress in my life without dealing with BS. I can't help laughing and/or being angry at oldest sis. Man, is she a drama queen. If anyone has a right to have an issue with little sis being at Christmas, it's me. But, by now, I've accepted the idea, and I could care less. I figure it this way: as long as dad is alive, he's always going to try to push us all together. My kids love Christmas, and in my opinion, that's what it's all about. I'm not about to mess up my kids' Christmas by fighting over little sis -- she just isn't worth it. So, I'll be there even if she is, and I'll make the best of it. I don't have to talk to her, and I won't, but I won't ruin my day over her either. Guess oldest sis can't figure that out. She has to carry on like a big baby. Give me a break and get over yourself. Man, I wish I had brothers!

Question: For all the migraine suffers out there or anyone who might have some info. I've been having migraines since around August (never before then). I've been noticing a pattern. I get them about a week before I get my period, which I hear can be normal. But it's not every month. I also noticed that if it's around that time in my cycle and I'm under a lot of stress, I'll get one. I never seem to get one at any other time. I also thought of something today. I've been off the birth control pill since August. I wonder if that has anything to do with the migraines? I'm due for my yearly exam in January, so I'll ask my doctor. I was just wondering if anyone knew if that could be related. If taking the pill can help my migraines, I'll get back on it, even if I don't need it for birth control. This pain is really getting to me. Thanks.

Donna

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 12:36pm

The good: I have my son for TG - and I invited a group of friends to my house because I was really in the mood to cook in my home. We all had so much fun cooking and talking and the food turned out great. My son had a great time and everyone gave him a lot of attention. He was so sweet to say grace and was proud of himself. I got a lot of compliments on my turkey and on the food. I made it to my sister's house later on for dessert and a visit with my family.

Nothing was really bad or ugly - maybe only the thought that his dad gets him for Xmas - but we already have the tree up and I am done with Xmas shopping. Santa will come early to our house.

While I will really miss my precious angel for Xmas (as well as having the thoughts that I wish I was happily married with a kind husband and more children) I will enjoy the week break by myself (ex takes ds up north for a week). Sometimes you have to make lemonaide out of lemons and it is really only one day that makes me sad. I am blessed to still have my parents in good health and my sister too.

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 12:42pm

the good: DF made the best turkey ever.

the bad: overeating until stomachs ached

the ugly: cleaning up before and after

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 12:58pm

Thanksgiving this year was not something I was looking forward to because I am the youngest of 7 siblings and I was the only one showing up to our aunts house which is

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 5:51pm

Hey Marybeth
Sorry to hear about your scary drive home! Wow!

So you are moving into the new place? I apologize if you posted about this since last we heard about the problems getting out of the house but if you did I missed it. Whatever happened?

Hugs
T

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 11:06pm

The good is that in spite of being off of my diet for Thanksgiving day, I still lost 2 pounds this week! :)

The bad, which may have also been good considering I really needed a break, is that my daughter was with her dad for the week.

The ugly was the traffic when I went to meet my daughters dad to pick her up. The 2 1/2 hour drive ended up taking 4 1/2 hours instead. Thank goodness for the portable DVD player I just bought! It kept her entertained!

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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 9:51am

Thank you all for sharing those stories. Wow, those were some good, bad and ugly! LOL

Donna, I sent you a response to your storie on a different post. BUT, here's a big ((HUG))

West1745: I think it's cool that you had friends over for Thanksgiving, what a great way to make sure no one gets in your hair. Friends enjoy these holidays because they can really come over to relax and have fun, with family it's always stress stress stress. Someone always has their panties in a bunch! lol I can totally understand what you mean about christmas and being alone. My mother used to be without me some christmas's and I hated being with my father. It was awful for both of us. I have to say, your lemonade quote is one of my favorite. It really is a great one. Do you have to give her up every christmas or do you and your X juggle that?

Downbythebay: I hate cleaning kitchen. Its one of the worst things in the world, especially during the holidays! It's such a pain and I often wish I had clean up help after the holidays.

Marybeth: WHAT?!?!?! 7 Siblings! Oh my! where were they all? With 7, couldn't you have had dinner with one of them? Sounds like such a stress with you and the drive in both directions. How awful! As for the Motel that doesn't just sound ugly, it sounds horrible! To bad you didn't take pictures of the place. LOL. I'd love to see those seedy motels, they make me laugh. Did they have an electric massage bed?

Jules68: good for you on the diet! 2lbs is super! What kind are you doin? Sounds as if everyone had a hellish drive. I want a portable DVD! WAHHHHHHHHH!!! That would entertain me too and then................CRASH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-))

- Catherine

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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 9:52am
I will post a separate update!
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 9:54am

Catherine,

You are so sweet with your responses. Thanks for your kind words. IN response to your question, my ex and I trade every year on the holidays - in otherwords, this year I have him for TG and he has him for Xmas - and then next year we switch. I suppose it is the best anyone can do. I think that Xmas is the hardest to be without him - it always makes me sad to be alone.

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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 4:25pm

The good....

Getting together with Shane's family and seeing our baby nephew again and getting some practice with a baby before Emily gets here. And getting my first baby gift...some cute pink stuff.

The bad...

Last year, Shane was off the day after Thanksgiving and this year he had to work and it was his birthday. SO he spent all day working and stressed and I was at his aunt's because we stayed the night. I was alright with relatives, but we had to eat leftovers, which I honestly am not too big on traditional holiday dinners and wished my husband was around to cuddle. Plus Dylan was away at his daddy's, so I missed him.

The ugly....

Shane got off at 6:30 on his birthday and sat around our house until 7:30 before he called to say he was on his way. We were all waiting for him to get to his aunt's so we could see him for part of his birthday and he piddled around here and didn't ever tell us he got off earlier than 7:30. I found out later when I talked to my mom who mentioned they called our house at about 6:30 and talked to him. That's how I knew he waited to come out there and I was furious.

Mel

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