What was that line about faith??
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| Wed, 03-19-2008 - 1:08pm |
...Something like "Worry stops where Faith begins" ?
So here is where I am taking that step. I am cautious by design so we'll see. I finally could no longer take the un-talked about issue of knowing Broom Hilda was in the picture. I know it's been one sided- she calls BE and she is the one who was persistent. But two nights ago I finally told BE- I need her out of the picture- a break in her emotional tie to him, he needs to let her know that once and for all. He needs to stop letting her hang her figurative head on him. I've had it.
He agreed and he will not call her back and if and when she calls he is going to stop reacting and responding to her needs for emotional support. This has been a monster in our relationship- he did not even realize how much it effected me-

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I am so proud of you- look at how well you have stood up, asked for what you need and refused to accept less than the best from BE.
Yes, I agree about Sex and the City part. But are ou talking about Carrie? Like when this guy moved in with her she wanted alone time when she is back from work and all that. I have a similar issue with early morning. When I wake up, every morning I need to come back to bed with my tea and sit alone thinkin, browsing or anything and sip my tea slowly.. I feel so incomplete if I cant do this. So I have to tell Biker now, this is my alone time..sipping tea.. Lol..poor guy, he wants to sit near me at that time and as you know he is more "romantic ;-)" when he wakes up. So now we are adjusting that timing.. cuddling time and my tea time.
Today I was in my bad PMS mood lol..But this evening we talked, both of us felt like the incident was lingering. SO we discussed. He did say today morning that he wont come to bed with work, but I needed to hear again.He also agreed that he wont ever bother me in my shower (unless we are in it together, or unless the house is on fire). But seriosuly he doesnt understand why I need privacy in shower if we are together all other time. lol.. I agreed that I will try and tone my criticisms more milder and react milder..
I had a sore throat all day today and yesterday and feeling feverish. So now he is making dinner today..Asparagus and may be baked tilapia...And I am doing this here( bad bad gal)..lol.
So to answer your qn.. we have made up and things are fine once again..
Hmmm - the only thing I can say - is why are you allowed to bring your tea to bed for quiet time and he is not allowed to bring work? I think the bed should just be for cuddle time and the tea and work should stay in the kitchen!!
I think your moving in conundrums are fun - makes me grateful for my space!! LOL!!
wow... That is a good point.. didn't I tell you I will have hard time dating you..lol.. Just kidding.
Hmmm..I should not do that. May be sip my tea at the kitchen table. Usually I try and send him for him morning shower when I have to sip my tea. (evil grin)
I can really see how being alone for sometime and enjoying ALL the space for yourselves makes us all this way. He is used to working in his bed before he goes to sleep and I am used to bringing my morning tea to bed.
It is fun, But I never thought couples actually discuss these kind of issues. I was not this way when I was in my 20s.. Now I am more picky and after being alone for a wile now I want my space once in a while.
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
Thanks, Alison. I appreciate what you say because you are honest. Thanks for these words..you are right that we both feel strongly enough to make it work. Issues and all! And life certainly likes to throw in the issues.
I am glad the we have a solid ground to stand on, because when I either of us get upset it seems we have a foundation to work from. I'm having to find that solid ground again today as the issue with his daughter arose suddenly- but at least the ground is under us.
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