What would you think

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Registered: 04-02-2006
What would you think
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:35pm

Hey everyone!! I was just wondering what you all would think if you were asked the questions I was asked by my BF this weekend.

Here's a little history before I get to the question. I have been seeing my BF for about 7 months now, and recently he bought some land, and is getting ready to clear an area for him to start building a house next summer.

So, anyway, saturday we went out to dinner and a movie, just a typical date. Usually at the end of an evening we end up just sitting in his truck for an hour or two and talking about whatever before we head home. This is where I need your opinions (I may just be overreacting to this also) as we were talking he started asking me questions like "do you like a 1 story or 2 story house?" "What kind of floorplans do you like?" and other similar questions having to do with things like how many bedrooms, etc... Then about the time we were ready to go he started hinting that he was seriously thinking of starting to build THIS summer instead of next summer, and how I would feel about that. So, ladies, what would you think (or do you think he's thinking) if you were in this situation??

Thanks,
Kira

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 6:01pm
I would be very happy and thinking our relationship is going in the right direction. But at the same time I would want to hold back my heart just a bit until I was very sure. Hopefully he brings this up - that he wants a future with you and for you to be married and live in that house with him!! You should never assume - but it is looking/sounding just wonderful. Keep us posted.
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 7:39pm

Wow. I'd overanalyze, overthink it, and then post about it here for advice, of course!
No, seriously, I would.

I think if I was happy in the relationship (as you seem to be) and things were going nicely and seemed to be progressing at a good pace, I would be hopeful that he was implying something more permanent for us by including me in the plans for "his" house.

However, I would also worry that I was just too hopefuly. I wouldn't want to get my hopes too high, as if he was just talking and asking questions casually and didn't mean anything by it, I would be hurt.

I guess the wondering would drive me batty, though, and before too long, I'd have to ask him, or see if the conversation turned to that type of thing again. If it did, I would then broach the subject without making it too deep.

Have you guys spoken of your future? What do YOU want?


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Registered: 12-20-2005
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 10:14pm

I think he's scoping. Looking for compatability. Wondering if you and he have similar ideas about the kinds of houses you prefer. In short, he is learning about you and getting an idea of how well your lifestyle might mesh with his.

I wouldn't go out and start planning my wedding, though!! He's just collecting information.