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what would you think if
| Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:33am |
You met a man IRL. Saw him,chitchatted, nothing. Saw him a week later, chitchatted, asked for your number. Called you 2 days later. Set up date for 2 days later. Went on date. Asked you out again on date. Called next day. Called 3-4 times day. Nice, no problems, not feeling smothered,stalked.

Keep dating - keep eyes open - see how it evolves.
Keep us posted! Tell us more about him and what you are looking for....
Just a thought...
In all of my time on iVillage and reading numerous Message boards I think I find a recurring theme:
Each individual male who goes on a date with a woman here tends to be scrutinized for lifemate potential immediately. Maybe too deeply. After date one. I'm not talking about the obvious losers here.
I've been lurking on several boards and also have been having conversations with women at work who are OLD and I can understand why many of them have been looking for years and never found anyone.
Hi Zen-
Thanks for the guy's perspective. It is, as always, valuable to us. I wanted to say I both agree and disagree to some things. We as single moms have grown and developed a pretty keen sense at to what we want in a relationship- and at the risk of sounding harsh I will say that at our stage in life we have the ability and perogative to "weed out" quicker than when we were young and responsibility free.. Those days of care free dating when our criteria was lower and we were learning and did not have kids to consider-- I can see how being more laid back and investing to some degree while you figure things out is OK. But for most of us here we've BTDT and now we more or less know in the first couple of dates. You're right about not expecting a date or relatiopnship determin our happiness and also very true about ging a guy a chance. I'm not saying that we shouldn't. However we have sooo much to protect (mainly our hearts and our kids) that there is really no point in going any further when a guy has some basic things that don't match up right from the get go. I think it's better to not go further even if that means after date 1..when you just "feel" somethings not right. So I disagree tho these points even though I get where you're coming from:
Woohoo, loved this post!
This was my BF's take on the dating scene, "You need to make sure the bait you are using will catch the fish you want"
I tend to dislike the OLD because it turns people into categories. Yes, you may not want a Catholic/Muslim/Vegan, whatever, but if you fell for someone who only had this one thing, you'd get over it.