What is wrong with single moms?

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Registered: 07-13-2003
What is wrong with single moms?
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Sat, 03-12-2005 - 7:38am

Out of Lurkerville with an angry/depressed rant.

One of my best guy pals, according to several mutual friends, is half in love with me. We have so much in common and would be such a great couple, but he told a friend last night that he could never get serious with me, because I have two kids. When he gets married, he wants to have two kids, and only two kids, so he can't marry someone who already has kids. So meanwhile he is dating a girl he told the same friend that he is not sure about because she really doesn't want kids, and he is concerned about what kind of mom she would be if she did have any. But he is also taking her on a vacation out of the country for two weeks!

This is just the latest in a long string. I meet two kinds of guys - the ones who hit the door running when they find out I have kids, or the ones who think a single mom is desperate, and when they don't get laid on the first date, then they hit the door running. I'm no supermodel, but I am attractive, have a good personality, am emotionally stable, have a good job and my own home, etc. My kids are very cute, have good attitudes, do very well in school, hardly ever get in trouble, one is very artistic and one is very athletic. Their dad lives three states away and is not very involved in their lives, so their is no drama there. So what is the deal that I can't get the time of day from a decent guy?

I'm not trying to date college students, or only guys who are rich or drop dead gorgeous, or something like that. I would like to find someone in my age range (33) who also has a good personality and is emotionally and financially stable. I have dated men with children and they were no different. I even went out with two who had custody of their own kids. Both of them thought their kids were great, but would like to see my kids on a boat to Siberia.

I would never do anything like it myself, but I can understand why some women think they have to get rid of their kids to get a man. All of these polls say most divorced women get married again within three years. I have been divorced for two years, and haven't even gotten a second date in over a year!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 12:30pm

Hi..and glad you delurked...


I agree with AZ_T-bone.

Kim

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 12:40pm

Boy Kim .... I was ready to pounce on you for that one!!!!

"It just feels like it, because most men go off to live their own life while the women have the majority of the child rearing. (not all men....so, don't jump on me Brian)"

LOL!!!!

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