what is your love language?

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what is your love language?
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 10:16am

I am curious - what is your love language?

1) Words of affirmation
2) Quality time
3) Acts of service
4) Receiving gifts
5) Physical touch

http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30sec.html - that is the quiz to help you determine.

Do you think the other person you are dating must have one that is compatible? Or is it just an awareness thing of what each other likes? Thoughts? Experiences?

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 7:38pm

great article - I had seen Mark talk about this often, but really didnt know what it was about.


After reflection I feel that both "words of affirmation" and "physical touch" come in first place - am I allowed 2?lol


It is hard to choose one over the other.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 8:55pm

It was hard to pick just one... but i'd have to say "Quality Time".. followed closely by "Physical Touch" ... but physical touch IS like quality time for me... and i also like "words of affirmation". too... I thinks thats why I can't get enough of the sweet things TG says to me... and i've been keeping a record of his promises, his sweet compliments, and also his funny jokes....


don't particular care about recieving gifts... but they are nice once and a while.. "Acts of service".... i appreciate it and recognize people for it, but it isn't my language.


Yes, Quality time is the best for me.. i like a person to pay attention to me and listen and care how i feel.


Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 12:27am

Wow.. what a great photo of you and your daughter. That's a Hallmark card photo if I have ever saw one.

Funny that none of the women here posted except looneybunny said Touch as their primary love language.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 8:21am

It's not really a Hallmark card photo... or a photo of flywithoutwings even! It's an AD!!!!


About Touch being a love language... I used to think mine was way down on the list, but with Hiker, I've been finding it's more like # 2 or 3. It's also interesting to see that my languages seems to have changed over the years... or maybe I didn't realize what they really were when I was younger.


I used to think my #1 was definitely Quality Time, but now I realize that while I do like quality time... I'm not all that needy (for lack of a better term) for focused attention. But of course, I see how living in the moment and being present with the person you are with- automatically gives you that quality time.


I still see Acts of Service as one of my main ones- to have someone do things for me (without my having to ASK for it first) just by paying attention and realizing my needs. I try to SHOW love to others in that same way. Of course, no one can read minds and I know we all miss the mark when we don't verbalize what we really want/need, but to have someone actually SEE that... it's that Covenant love type of thing that I want.


Gifts... I see that very easy to do when you're in the Twitterpated infatuation stage.


What's interesting for me to notice though- is that Words of Affirmation is higher now than it used to be. I used to think "I don't need all the praises and atta-boys to keep me motivated and going" but now I look at the things I do- and I see that is at least one of the things I DO when I show love. I love to send cards with heartfelt words to others. I love letting others know they are appreciated and mean something to me. And I do love hearing that from others, too- though I know that I'm not motivated ONLY by hearing those things.


So to sum up (in my long-winded way...) I think my top 2 are Acts of Service and Words of Affirmations, with Physical Touch as third. (But really- who wouldn't want ALL of these languages to flow?!?)


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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