What's a single mom to do?

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Registered: 04-25-2005
What's a single mom to do?
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 10:18am
I am a single mother who has recently given up a very rocky relationship with my little girl's dad. About three weeks ago I met someone at my job(who I already knew in the community i live in only i hadn't seen him in years and years)and I am really interested in him. He seems to be everything i look for in a guy-he's the sensitive type with a great job and goals in life.Growing up my family was close to his and I remember seeing him a lot but you know...we grew up. He's never been married or had kids(sex life is a ?)and i'm not sure how he would react to my little girl.Also, since I've become more and more interested in him from seeing him at work, he stopped coming to the facility( he's a phys. ther. and he used to help in our center while he worked for our sister facility).At the time and now when I look back I feel as though he was interested too, but things never got the chance to advance.His co-worker still comes to my job and i'm wondering if maybe i should send a note through him or something? Cause I can't stop thinking about this guy and also feeling like I should do something about the situation. Help?
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:18pm
Is there another way to "bump into him" in the community? Do you have mutual friends?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:28pm


Do you have a mutual friend who could set you up?

I think a note from you out of the blue would be odd. I think I would feel a little bit like that if I received such a note.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:37pm

Sounds like you have a crush. Sending a note isn't a good idea (IMO). I've done stuff like that in the past. It has never worked out.

You should find a way to run into him more often. Try being friends. That way you'll find out if he has a girlfriend. Also, that would give him a chance to ask you out.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:53pm

Hi
My thought is maybe you could ask the co-worker if so and so is single. Maybe it'll get back to him you were asking and if he's interested it puts the ball in his court.

Sending a note, I agree, would be strange. Also, you can't worry about how he'd react to your daughter just yet. Never think of your child as a potential liability or honestly, that's what you'll convey to your potential dates.

Hope you get the answers you want. Let us know if something develops!
Hugs
Tara