whats wrong with me?

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Registered: 09-21-2004
whats wrong with me?
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 8:20am
Im a 22 year old female, and I don't think I will ever be happy in a relationship. Im fixing to break up with my current boyfriend of 2 years. When we are together I can't stand him, and don't want him anywhere near me. When we are apart I worry constantly about what he is doing. I don't trust him. He has never gave me a reason not to. We fight all the time. Part of me wants to be with him, but another part can't stand him. Is this normal. Why do I do this? I feel like I need to stay single until I find out who I am.

I can't be happy with someone if im not happy with myself. Can you give me some advice on how to be happy with myself, and find out who I am?
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 8:29am
Maybe counseling is the answer for you, but DEFINITELY not a relationship. If this guy has never given yu a reason not to trust him, why do you not trust him? Have you been hurt before and think it will happen over and over? I've been there. I only JUST got over that feeling and I'm divorced and now remarried. My new husband is wonderful and I had to go thru the feelings that he'd cheat or hurt me somehow, but he hasn't and he won't. He's different. What you should do is see a counselor and talk to them about this fear and let the help yu get to the bottom of it.

Mel

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 11:15am

Hi and welcome to the board!


Biggest word of advice I can give you is to drop the emotionally unhealthy relationship and just be single for a while. You're SO young. And you've been with your bf since you've been even younger. Take some time to pursue your own interests and see what happens. Do things YOU like to do, and quit placing your contentment in what someone else is doing.

Becky

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