What's your Best Date - Worst Date?

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What's your Best Date - Worst Date?
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 10:39am

Hi All,

In the past year... what has been your Best Date and what was your Worst Date? Where did you go? What did you do? And what was your date like that made it the Best or Worst in the past year....

Tell us your stories....

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:24am

Best Date - i don't have a lot to choose from on this list... most of my dates have been so-so... But the winner is Joe... he was a 22 yr old Navy dude that I went out with a few times last October. He was sooo adorable and sweet. He looked like a young Tom Cruise and our best date was just watching DVDs and snuggling on the couch. He laughed at all my jokes and the date was very relaxing and comfortable... (too bad he stood me up for our fourth date).

Worst Date - long list to choose from in this category. But the winner is the Barnes & Noble looser! Met this person thru myspace. We agreed to meet at Barnes & Noble for coffee. When I met him, he looked ten years older than his picture (he was 40). He never even bought me a coffee and in less than 10 minutes he said, not feeling the chemistry, thanks for coming out. What a huge waste of my time...

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:02pm

My best date was with this woman I met off Match.com. It was the second date (first was the customary coffee date). We went to this great jazz club where the acoustics were great. The band was actually more R&B than jazz and they had a great horn section. I got a bit touchy feely with her for she seemed open to it. In fact she even turned to kiss me (maybe it was the alcohol). Regardless the music was really fun and I felt it was a great time with some nice connection with her. I tipped (not a small amount) the woman who got us in despite my screw up with the reservations. Sorry to say it did not work out.

My worst date was also with a woman I met off Match. We talked on the phone a couple of times with nice, meaningful conversations. I broke of couple of my rules where the first date was dinner and that she is a therapist. I decided dinner because of the timing of our schedules so I needed to eat anyway.

On her profile, she said she wanted to practice dating since she was newly divorced. I approached this date/person with not expecting any sort of relationship for I don't want to be the first one after someone's divorce.

She started criticizing me in a way that made me want to get up after the first 5 minutes of dinner. This was the only person I ever felt that way with. She phrased the criticism in such a way by saying "I want to offer this to you as a gift..." then proceeded to tell me what is wrong with me.

I have this "no therapists" rule for the reason that most of them look at you rather themselves as there is something wrong and they know everything. I was happy she offered to pay for her half. She was still on Match and our date was about 3 years ago. (Of course I'm still single too LOL).

Mark

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 1:26pm

My best first date by far was with the lifeguard - he taught me to play pool! And we had so much fun. He was a good teacher.

I have had several dates that I would consider worst - one was with a guy who said he wants to travel the world with me but he wants me to leave DS with a nanny. Then the next one was with a guy who drank way too much on the first date. And another was with one who was really rude to the waitress and stared at me and critiqued and discussed everything I said. OH - and still another was with a guy who owned a Porsche but didn't believe in seat belts or air conditioning. Then there was another who lied about his age by 10 years and that was his opening line. But then there was the recent date with the German guy who said he wanted me to help him launch his business and help him cook paella for other people every weekend. And then there was the golfer who answered his cell phone like 3 times with his friend who is going through an ugly divorce and then we had to discuss the topic of divorce on the first date and it was a lunch where I was trying to eat a salad and there were huge booths with moms and kids sitting at them.

The thing I hate the most about first dates is getting disappointed by what they say or what they look like. I have heard so many deal breakers.

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 5:49pm

My best date was with my children. I know that's probably not what you meant, and I've had great dates with funnyguy, but there was one special "date" we all went on. I took the kids to the zoo, then to Chuck E Cheese's, which was a very special treat as they've never been. After that, we went to a park to swim, and then to a backyard bbq. The weather was perfect, the children were well behaved, and everyone had a great time.

My best "grown up" date this year was probably going to trivia night with funnyguy and his friends. We placed second, I got to spend time without the children while I wasn't at work, and meeting his friends was great. We spend a lot of time with my friends, so this was not one of our typical dates or outings together.

My worst date this year was probably the guy I wasn't sure I was into who stood me up for coffee. He had a valid excuse, so I agreed to meet him again, and he was not at all what I expected, what I wanted, or what I thought he was after several phone conversations. I should have gone with my gut on that one, since I felt "off" about it anyhow, but all wasn't lost, since I had a good meal and was childfree for a couple of hours.

Moody, glad to not be "out there" anymore


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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 3:24am
Last weekend i met up with a guy i met on CL. We had been talking for about two weeks and decided to meet for dinner. We had been having pretty good conversations over the phone leading up to the date. On the day of the date he texted saying that he was very excited to meet me. He seemed a little bit of a "dork" but he was very nice. Anyway we met at a restaurant close to my house. First of all, he looked nothing like his pix (surprise surprise)! Secondly he was really nervous, sweating profusely and stuttering. He couldn't get a word out without stuttering or stammering. Upon laying eyes on him i KNEW he was not my type and that i wasn't attracted to him. But he was a very nice guy and decided what the heck i'll make the most out of it. Conversation was ackward. He kept checking his cell and texting people while we were in the middle of the conversation. After checking his VM for the 30th time, he apologized stating that his friend had just caught her fiancee cheating on her and that she was threatening suicide. He was really freaked. He said that she was calling him because he had gone through the same thing (his ex cheated on him and actually got pregnant with the cheaters baby)! After calling her to see what was up, he finally got her on the phone. He just ran out of the restaurant. He didn't say anything..just ran out. After about 20 minutes dinner was served. So, since i was really hungry i just started eating my meal. I wasnt sure if the guy had left or if he was outside talking to his friend. After 45 mintes, he still hadnt returned, so i payed the bill and left( i payed for his meal, which he didnt even eat). When i got home, there were 3 messages from him asking why i had left and that he was still at the restaurant. I didn't feel angry or sad just "over it".
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 8:08am

OMG - that is HIDEOUS! You poor thing.

It makes me feel so so so much better to read these stories. OMG. If I didn't have this board I would have thought something was really wrong with me to have to date so many men and have this much drama after my divorce.

You girls (and yes Mark the boys too!) are all lifesavers to me. I don't know what I would do without all of you. The support and sharing here are incredible. There is no way my married friends or family would ever understand this. And really in the end, this has all made me a better and stronger more empathetic person.

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:46am
I second that!!
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 10:06am

This is a little hard since I haven't really dated much but I do have a best and worst. Although the best isn't really that great.

My worst date was with the friend of a friend. I usually will play poker with a group of guys. Great fun and not really expensive. Most of them are married and I have known them for years and years but it is a good, cheap night out. My closest friend from that group has a few friends that I haven't really known. Don't know how that happened but it did. One of them happened to be single (we'll call him S) and when he found out I has split from my husband he asked me for a drink. I wasn't quite sure at the time but I was told he was a decent guy, he wasn't unattractive and was close to my age so I agreed. Now he is from NJ and not to stereotype but he is REALLY from NJ. Very loud and as we had a few drinks he got louder. As the evening progressed, it ended up that he was the absolutely most conservative person I had ever met. (I am very liberal and open minded) The things that were coming out of his mouth were astounding to me. He was not only conservative but also a bit of a homophobe (sp?). I couldn't believe it. He ended up being so bigoted and so far to the right that I just couldn't believe it. I mocked him openly and I don't know if he even got it. I called my friend that I had met him through on the way home (he has a gay sister) and asked him if he knew all these things about S. He said no but guys don't really talk about that stuff he said. He also has lots of acquaintance type friends that he isn't really close to but can call for poker, a football game, etc. We didn't go out again. It was horrible. (does that count)

As for the best, it was with a guy I met on YP. He was nice and we got along well. We met for brunch and hit it off. There really were not sparks for me but I liked him and we had plenty of commonalities. Unfortunately his calendar was entirely too full to have a R with a single mom. I think he really liked me too. It just wasn't going to work out.

Not the best stories but all I have. Hopefully I'll start dating more and have some really good ones.

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 10:59am

OH - believe me - if you date more you will surely have more stories - good and bad!! We all pray for good for sure.

I just think you have to make up your mind that you want to get out there and get out there. MrWonderful is not going to knock on your door. And you have to be willing to undergo the rigors of dating - meaning dating toads - to find the good one.

The dating pool recedes as we age. So we have to make a point to get out there!

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:12am

I know I have to get out there. I just seem to "dip my toe in" then run if the water seems cold. That is the best analogy I can come up with. I have given my number out to numerous guys(after they have asked for it obviously) that never call. I am a member of a meet-up group that I need to start participating in.

As for the receding dating pool, I agree, the numbers, as well as their hair (LOL). I'm glad bald is in. I'd rather they shave the do a comb-over. ;o)

Priscilla

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