When???

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2005
When???
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Tue, 04-29-2008 - 1:55pm

Hello Ladies,


First I want to thank you all for your advice yesterday.


I have signed up for some internet dating sites. POF, and match.com.


I am e-mailing with 2 people..and getting my toes wet a little.


At what point did you actually "meet" someone you where e-mailing with, in person. I don't know the protocol yet. Some guy gave me his phone number already, after only 2 days, and i told him i would have to talk to him on here a bit before I actually would call him. Am i being too cautious?? or maybe just chicken sh*t?? lol


To refresh, i am 38, newly divorced with 2 boys. Thanks!!!

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Registered: 12-27-2006
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 2:02pm
It's right when YOU are comfortable. Cautious is a good thing. If he's ok with the

~Karen
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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 2:28pm

I do agree with Tiny that YOU need to be comfortable BUT you also need to be careful.

April

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 2:50pm

When I do OLD, I look to meet ASAP because that is the only way to know someone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 3:26pm

Beware! There are guys that will email you forever with no intention of ever meeting up in


person, or the one's I used to get, that email you a few times and then just dissappear alltogether!


If after a few emails, he makes no effort to meet up with you, that's a big red flag, that he's just there to chit chat and waste your time.


You have to have thick, elephant like skin to do OLD, and the patience of a saint for all that comes


with it, so keep a super, open mind and take it with a grain of salt.


Best of luck to you.

The T Girl
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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 4:47pm

When I was doing the OLD thing, I always ran the guys names through a website here in WI for Circuit Court Access.

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Registered: 12-30-2005
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 5:17pm

Thanks again for all the advice. I guess i should just take a deep breath and jump in. After not talking/being with another man for 20 years...this is very scary.


I am 38 feeling like 16...

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: takhississ17
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 9:16pm

I agree with Mark- you should plan to meet as soon as possible in person.


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