When an old love comes-a-callin...

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When an old love comes-a-callin...
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 1:43pm

OK all...heres one for you. Long ago in a land very close to the one I live in now there was a very very very sweet and gentle loving man in my life. OK so Ill stop the dramatics and get on with it. Way before my ex there was a man I was involved with for 8 years. When we met I was 19 and he was 28. We lived together for a few years and as I grew up I grew out of him. I was young and doing all the 21 year old stuff that he had alredy been through. He understood it to and was very patient. At the time I thought he was to patient...to laid back. We broke up and got back together and broke up and back together...you get the picture.


Hes always been there for me no matter what. Always been my best friend, family always loved him and I guess I always loved him. I just never gave him the benefit of the doubt and believed he was for real I guess. He truly was a prince. I can honestly tell you he brought me a rose everyday of our relationship for all the years we were together. He left me love letters all over the house. Packed my lunch for work. Always made me laugh even when my girlfriends used to think he was boring. All these years when something big happened in my life I always called him and the same for him. Hes never married or had kids and that was a big thing for me...he never wanted to get married and I wanted to sooooo badly.


Anyway after everything happened with my ex I ran into the prince and he kind of shrugged me off and said oh yeah I heard you had a kid. I never called him when Mia was born, for some reason i felt guilty even though we hadnt been a couple in over 6 years. So fast forward a few months he calls my mom for my number and she of course gives it to him and he calls. He being the prince tells me if theres anything that me or the "kid" need to just call him and he will always be there for me no matter what.


Now we have been talking for a week or so pretty steady and we have decided we'll go out for some dinner when he gets back from traveling for work (yeah hes got a job and a license of and more than one car and ummm a paycheck). I guess Im looking for some direction on this. I dont know if Im pursuing something with him for the right reasons. My best friend asked what was it about him that made me stay for so long and I said he always took care of me, I always felt safe with him and he was my great love I guess. So she said there you go..its all right there in front of your face now open your damn eyes and thank the lord for a second chance.


So waht do you think???


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 4:30pm

Never say never- and it's good IMO to keep friends as long as you're not being sucked into drama or past hurt. This could be just the thing, either closure or a renewed friendship at least!


Looking forward to your update.


I don't know anything about Ukranian/Polish men except that BE's daughter's Husband is Polish and he's madly sucessful and stable. Oh except the night in Italy when he got wicked drunk and tried to convince everyone in the bar he is actually Japanese.


~Pacific~
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 4:35pm
Go slow - have a casual date/time together - see what happens. And then report back of course!!
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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 8:40am
Oh except the night in Italy when he got wicked drunk and tried to convince everyone in the bar he is actually Japanese.

LMAO...Thank you for the morning chuckle!!!!


Will definitely keep you all posted as things unfold...

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 9:58am

He sounds great and even if nothing comes of it, as far as

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:02am

Not thinking LTR but def with you on the bully backing down part. I know if/when ex gets any kind of whiff of a new man in my life it will send him over the edge. He really thinks he broke me and ruined me for any sort of happiness in my life. He sees himself as the only one being entitled to "move on" since I am the mother of his child my focus until my last dying breath is to be her. (ok so i feel that way myself but im entitled to happines as much as the next person and if i see a possible family unit - not just a single parent household for my daughter then im not going to allow him to bully me into thinking otherwise). See im very different than him, im a responsible parent and wouldnt expose mia to someone new so soon anyway. Why confuse her more??? Hes doing enough of that on his own. Funny thing is when she comes home she talks about daddy and her brother but no mention of the gf. I know shes only 2 but its a bit odd dont you think? The weekend we went with the family for my moms bday she still brings up everybody that was there.


So back to the prince...I fully plan on taking things very very very slowly. I know with him that my gut and my heart will let me know if theres a spark or not, and hes the same way. If its not there for us in one way we know we

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 3:26pm
Hmmmm... I am a BIG believer in things happening for a reason. You didnt hear from him, now you did.

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