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| Sat, 05-26-2007 - 9:43pm |
When should you tell a guy something that could potentially be a deal-breaker? During the initial communicating/scoping things out phase, on the first date, or later? Should you just let it out or wait until it comes up?

Do you have a specific issue that might be a deal breaker? Or is this just a general question? Well, for me, I generally get a good idea about the guy on our first date. You know to see if there is a connection, attraction, and common interest (for me at least). If you get a good feel of the guy on the first date, I would give him a second and if you guys hit it off, things are bound to come up and could potentially be deal breakers even later in the relationship. It's like an interview. One of Shrimpy's post "How to spot a great guy" is a great article. I actually went out and bought the book Deal Breakers by Dr. Bethany Marshall. I'm in the process of reading it and so far it's pretty darn interesting. Good luck!
Vanessa
I think it's a gray area; how big is the 'potential' of the deal buster?
I am not sure what you mean by "dealbreaker" - but I know for myself that I am a unique individual with my own set of likes, dislikes and activities. I am a single mom. He gets all of that info up front. What is a deal breaker for some may be a have to have, great to have or okay to have to others. I know I don't want to waste time, don't want drama and want the right person for me. So, everything comes out as soon as possible.
Hope this helps.