When the Working Day Is Done

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When the Working Day Is Done
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 4:47pm

Oh Girls, They Wanna Have Fun. Oh, Girls, just wanna have fu-un....

So, last Saturday evening I went with my girlfriend and her husband to her company's Christmas party. It was a mystery theater dinner thing at a local restaurant- and such a blast! I was supposed to be her ex-husband's (who also works for the same company) guest, but he was sick and didn't come.

I like him, have a mild crush on him, even. The thing is, I know there's no chance a relationship could go anywhere. His personality is great, but he is one of my best friend's ex-husbands (and they have a great relationship), for one thing, and the logistics would be awful. There's also not really any physical attraction. It could grow, but I don't really want it to, since I know there's no chance for a relationship. We see each other at some family things, and once in a while one or the other of us needs an escort to things such as this. I think we both sort of think of the other as "safe", since we like each other but know it will never go anywhere due to our respective relationships with my friend.

So, anyhow, I ended up "alone" at this party, and was seated next to a man who was also alone. I have seen him at a couple of other functions for the company, and we had such a fun time flirting. He was funny, charming, and I had a wonderful time. It was completely stress-free and just plain fun.

Then we ended up going out to sing karoake at a local bar, and I ran into a couple of friends from high school. One of them was my best friend in high school- she was the maid of honor in my wedding, even, and I haven't seen her since my wedding, literally. It was such a great night. We danced, sang, caught up on our lives, and just had a great time.

One of the friends I ran into was male, but I wasn't out looking for a guy- and this guy will never be anything but a friend- but he's one of those friends who won't ever want to be, you know? It was definitely one of those nights you wish could go on forever, and it was nothing but the girls having fun. A couple of guys did hit on me, but since I wasn't interested in them, I didn't feel the need to flirt back just for the fun of it.

It really made me think about my priorities, and being in a relationship is one of them. I was the only single person in our group, and while I was having a blast, I realized I didn't want to always be the odd man out. I also don't want to go out with my friends and feel like I'm on the prowl, so to speak. Going out and feeling like I felt on Saturday- it was strictly for fun- I wasn't even going to consider the possibility of meeting someone- was great, and I did have so much fun. I am choosing to believe right now that I can feel like this while in a relationship, something I've never done before. That's how I'll know the relationship is right for me. If I'm not still having fun, I'm not in the right relationship.

Moody-who really needed to have fun- and will post again about the big new thing, soon!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 5:11pm

That would be something - to date a friend's exh!! Can't imagine that for sure!!

Sounds like you had fun. Don't you worry your poor head, dear moody. Being single is like being pregnant - you think it will last forever - but I promise it won't!!

What is this "something big" - we all want to hear!! DETAILS!!??

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:32pm
What a GREAT attitude!

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