when/how to say ILY

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Registered: 07-15-2008
when/how to say ILY
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 5:06pm

ok - question for ya'll :-)


I am struggling desperately - Its on my mind alot so I know it's something I am going to have to take care of.

JH

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 5:48pm
That would be hilarious!
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 5:50pm

Hmmm, what a great question. I do see your quandry..wanting to say it but always that bit of "should I's".


BE said it to me first, after about 2 months of dating. We were out dancing and went out onto the patio for some air. He kissed me and said it, and said "you don't have to say it back" but I did anyway because I felt it. I can be pretty shy so even if I felt ot first I would have been hesitant to say it first, even though that is crazy.


Ah, what a nice memory!


I hope for you two, it becomes just as much a memorable moment. Advice? Well, I would say it when you feel it comes out really naturally, and not expect a response, just say it because you want him to know it. Because you want him to know how special he is. Maybe during a long hug, say it in his ear?


~Pacific~
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 5:58pm
He actually said it once but it didnt count.

JH

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 6:16pm
Say WHAT?!?!?! and bat my eyelashes :P
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 6:24pm

Well it could be that. I bet he feels just like you do... wants to say it but has fears? Maybe you could say it like a question..."Do you know how much I love you?" That way there would be no awkwardness..just sorta opens the door.


Whatever you do I ber he will be beside himself with joy, inwardly even if it scares him. But I bet he won't even flinch and tell you "I love you" right back.


~Pacific~
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:33pm
oh I hope your right.

JH

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:56pm

About 3 1/2 months into my relationship, it was the first night CM stayed over, and I could swear during the middle of 'nakietime' he whispered the words.

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:10pm
That makes me feel a lot better actually.

JH

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:19pm

Most men wouldnt dream of doing some things unless they were gone head over heels.

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 9:22pm
Speaking of actions... have u heard from him yet?
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