I would tell a potential BF straightaway that I am a single mom - I would work it into the conversation the first time we spoke. Because I want to know right away if they like that idea. Some do, some don't.
I think that for me, there's no question. I tell the guy immediately. I am doing OLD right now, so those guys always know, as it's in my profile. A couple of my other prospects know because I made it a point to make a casual statement about my children- for instance with Double D, the first conversation we had was at our party for work, and we were talking about food. He eats a lot of healthy food, so I just casually said that my son loves salad. I knew he was a guy I could get into when he asked my son's age and if I had other children. He wasn't freaked, instead he was interested, and if he had freaked, I'd have known before wasting any time that he wasn't the right guy for me. Also, I think for me it's a matter of personal opinion that I wouldn't want to feel liek I had sprung my children on a guy. I certainly wouldn't be able to date someone more than once without him knowing about my kids. They are a major part of my life, and I'm not at all ashamed of that. Any guy worth spending time with will be fine with the fact that I have them.
I tell everyone I meet that I'm a mom. It comes up in conversation all the time. "How was your weekend?" ... "It was great. I played video games with my son."
I would have to work very hard to keep my child out of conversations. To censor what I said would feel unnatural to me.
If you're reluctant to tell this guy that you're a mom, I suspect you're picking up a vibe that he would not like the news. If that's the case, look for someone else.
~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ
I think that for me, there's no question. I tell the guy immediately. I am doing OLD right now, so those guys always know, as it's in my profile.
A couple of my other prospects know because I made it a point to make a casual statement about my children- for instance with Double D, the first conversation we had was at our party for work, and we were talking about food. He eats a lot of healthy food, so I just casually said that my son loves salad. I knew he was a guy I could get into when he asked my son's age and if I had other children. He wasn't freaked, instead he was interested, and if he had freaked, I'd have known before wasting any time that he wasn't the right guy for me.
Also, I think for me it's a matter of personal opinion that I wouldn't want to feel liek I had sprung my children on a guy. I certainly wouldn't be able to date someone more than once without him knowing about my kids. They are a major part of my life, and I'm not at all ashamed of that. Any guy worth spending time with will be fine with the fact that I have them.
Moody, a proud mama
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I cant imagine NOT telling immedietly.
I tell everyone I meet that I'm a mom. It comes up in conversation all the time. "How was your weekend?" ... "It was great. I played video games with my son."
I would have to work very hard to keep my child out of conversations. To censor what I said would feel unnatural to me.
If you're reluctant to tell this guy that you're a mom, I suspect you're picking up a vibe that he would not like the news. If that's the case, look for someone else.
Edited 1/6/2007 7:13 am ET by coolio2001