Where are the kids??
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Where are the kids??
| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 12:33pm |
As I am reading through all these posts, I am wondering where the kids are while these single moms are going on all these dates?
Do you limit your dating to times when the kids are with their dads? Or do you go out as often as you like and just pay for a sitter?
Has your date ever offered to help with the expense of a sitter? I have found that paying for a sitter can cost as much if not more than the date itself, depending on what we do and how late it gets.
Also, being a single mom, when you get home from your date and you've hired a sitter, do you drag the kids out of bed to take the sitter home? Or would it be appropriate to ask the date to take the sitter home?

Mostly when I went out with my friends and my husband was still alive, I only went out when it was his weekend with my daughter.
Luckily, I have a barrage of family who will take my children any time for free and then if I plan to be out late, they just sleep over and I pick them up in the morning.
When I used to babysit, though, the lady I babysat for did use to have her date bring me home. He used to pay me sometimes too. (only cause she would tell him he didn't have to in front of me, but he was just a nice guy like that. I wouldn't expect my date to pay for my sitter, OR bring my sitter home.) If I was dating someone for awhile, I don't think it would be a big deal to ask him to take the sitter home, but I would never do it on a first date. That's just me.
Sometimes, I would just sleep over where I was babysitting, too and then whoever I was babysitting for would bring me home in the morning. I think there are a lot of options and it just depends on your sitter (and their family if they are a teenage sitter.)
--snow
I agree with snow - there are a lot of options. I usually do stuff when my DS is with his dad or my family. The sitters I have had have all had their own transportation or lived in the neighborhood.
HOpe this helps - welcome to our board!
My mom was a single mom, my dad lived in a different state.
I go on dates when I want to and pay for a sitter. Sometimes my kids stay with Grandma and Grandpa, or I have a sister-in-law who "swaps" kids with me on occassion, which makes it nice for all involved, since the kids get to play, and the adults get a night off. But my daughter doesn't ever see her father, so if I waited until she wasn't with me, she'd potentially be in college before I had a date.
I have never had a date offer to pay for a sitter, and if one did, I'm not sure how I'd react. Suprise is the emotion that comes immediately to mind!
My children as still fairly young, so I don't drag them out of bed, instead, I either arrange for the sitter to spend the night, or my children spend the night at their house. My dates don't neccessarily last that long, but the sitters I use are family friends, and I used to babysit for them, actually, so it just works out that it's more like a sleepover for them and my kids.
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Being a single mom doesn't mean that you cannot go out anymore, you just have to plan a little more- you can't be as spontaneous as in the past before children.
I go out on Saturday nights that is MY night. I usually drop him off at the sitter (who he absolutely LOVES) around 7 or so, and I pick him up the next morning around 9. I always pay my sitter, and I would feel REALLY weird if someone offered to pay for it. so, yeah...Saturday night is my night for whatever I choose to do (which is USUALLY bowling) =)