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where do you meet men?
| Sun, 04-15-2007 - 8:47pm |
Hi! I have not written in a while....my first steps into dating have left a lot to be desired!! I am not ready for the online dating routine, but for the life of me I don't know how people meet men? It has been a long time and, quite frankly, I don't rememeber being that good at it to begin with!
How do you meet guys between work, and houseowrk, and kids, and.......?

I met the newest guy I am seeing with OLD, Four dates so far and so far it has been great. I was very reluctant to put my photo out there, but it does seem the best way to meet men. My other suggestion is speed dating. I read in a previous post about people being reluctant to try it. I have done it twice, the first time I went alone and it was very out of character for me. ( I am pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people) Any way, I used 8 minute dating. I had 8 dates and met 3 other guys during the breaks. You then go home log on line and choose who you would be interested in seeing again. If you both match up, you get an email giving each other your names, email address and telephone number if you choose. I was divorced 2 years before trying it, as I really was ready to meet someone. The first time I choose 4 men that I thought I would like to see again. I matched with 3 of them. The very next morning I had emails from all 3 asking me out. I had not been on a single date in 2 years and then found myself with 3 dates in one week. I saw one guy only once, another guy 3 dates and the third guy was my one significant relationship. We dated seriously for 5 months and then casually for another 5 months.
I attended a second event last November, This time I only choose one guy and did not match, but truthfully I think I was just not ready to meet someone, still was getting over the last relationship. I went that time mainly because I had a girlfriend that really wanted to try it and did not want to go alone. She did match with and see two different men. 8 minutes is certainly not enough time to know if you are truly compatible, but it is enough time to know if you have any interest in learning more about them. I felt much more comfortable with the speed dating, than the on line dating, as you were meeting in a big group, no one knew more than your first name and it was all very low pressure. You did not have to worry about offending anyone if you are not interested, as you just do not choose them. it was a fun night both times and truly low pressure. The only reason I did not stick with the same thing this time is they have not had any events for my age range that is local to where I live for a few months now. (I am 39) I Live in southern NH, only a few miles from the Mass border and there are tons of events in Boston, but I did not want to meet someone to far away. I preferred to stay real local. Any way, I highly recommend you try it. If you have any questions about feel free to ask.
Well, chances are you will come into contact with them doing ordinary things. Home depot, the police officer (this just happened to me on my street with a few unruly boys and he was a cutie!), the handyman, on and on. Of course if you have some fun activities for you that is good because it puts you in contact with all sorts of people who are like minded. Friends have friends who have friends.
QB met her SO doing a function with her kids. That is another good place to look.
I think if you focus on doing more things for you and expanding your social network you will better your chances. Good luck and keep us posted!