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where to start???
| Wed, 03-01-2006 - 8:05pm |
I need some help please. I'm 31, have 2 children, aged 10 & 8, have been single for the past 7 years. My ex is remarried (which in all honesty pisses me off, cause he moved on very quickly afterwards)
I would like to start meeting new people, and start having a life of my own, outside of my children.
I fought a 6 year custody battle, that has just recently ended (in october) and i have no idea where to begin.
If anyone has any ideas, i would really appreciate it. I had to move to a new town to accomodate the weekabout custody, and don't know anyone really.
I just feel at a loss, and would like help in begining over.

Welcome. I can understand how you would feel so frustrated and not know where to turn. You have been through a lot and now being in a new place is not easy. I am sure it is hard to start over without friends and a support system.
I think the first place to start is with yourself - do all you can to feel good. Maybe this is to organize your closet and buy a few things for you. Or to clean the house. Exercise. Take the time to strike up a conversation with everyone you meet. Try to find fun things to do outside of the house when you don't have the kids. This can be anything.
Slowly but surely your social network will grow. And somewhere in all of this you will meet someone nice to date.
Please don't feel pressure to hurry just because your exh remarried. That has nothing to do with you. You have to figure out who you are again as a single person and who is right for you.
I hope you stay and participate in our board discussions as much as you can - this will help you a lot too.
Again, welcome and good luck - keep us posted!
Welcome to the board!
It's always tough moving to a new place and having to meet people.
Take things one day at a time and don't sit at home on the couch!! Think of this as an opportunity to discover who you are and what you like as a single woman!!
Stephanie
I suggest the gym, the library, church and volunteering for an organization you care about - although I've done all four and never found a date that way.
Thank you very much everyone for all your suggestions. I will look into everything that has been suggested to me.
I will be using this site often, for advice, and to gain knowledge.
thank you so much for taking the time to help me, it is greatly appreciated!
Jenn
PS: now, if i can only figure out what to buy my son for his 10th birthday!!!