Whirlwind weeks and I'M ENGAGED!
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| Mon, 03-07-2005 - 11:40am |
This month has been interesting - if you can recall I have been back and forth with Jack for along time - almost 2 years now! Really we always loved each other. It was just situations were odd. At least for us. WELL - I have always said that when he made up his mind that would be that and sure enough we got there. As he says, it felt like he broke through frosted glass that kept him from seeing clearly/feeling clearly. He told me that he knew well over a year ago that I was the one he wanted but for several internal reasons he was unable to act on it. I have been listening to all kinds of apologies and cheese it is a crack up!
Anyhow, last week he finally told me that he loves me and that won't change. He wanted to be with me and nothing else mattered. So the telling of the parents had to happen ( telling them that we are exclusively dating). THE NEXT DAY he told his mom who was supportive and then he was going to wait until next week to tell his dad because they are taking a short trip together but he saw him yesterday and just couldn't wait! His dad's reaction was we better get moving on making more babies ASAP! LOL. So then OF COURSE i had to tease Jack on his irrational fear of telling them which he is embarrassed about but what a story. And last night he told me that he knows he wants to be with me until he dies and would I marry him!! I was struck dumb - but in a calm, quiet, and soft way - not all freaking out. So he asked again and kept talking. I finally laughed and said "where's the ring?" and then I stopped and said that If course I would! If felt so perfect and easy and natural. Like a giant sigh after holdin gmy breath (guess I was huh?)
The change in him is night and day. He is already preparing for our future and looking at houses and wants me to pick out my ring (or an array to pick from) But we do want to wait a few months at least before we tell his family. Just give them time to get to know me and adjust to it. My mom agrees that is good too since they didn't even know we were dating. But I can see us not holding out as long as we are planning (we were thinking after the Daytona Race in Early July since I think we will go - just us two - for his birthday and then offically announce things) However, I think Jack would marry me tomorrow - he even suggested it since I don't have insurance and neither does Alyse right now.
But I want to wait and get to know his family a little. i think that is important so that I can at least try to lay the groundwork for a healthy extended family relationship. Jack has made it clear that we are a family now and the rest is secondary (although of course not unimportant)
Ladies - it really is night and day. Can I just tell you that not only does this feel good - so good - because I love him so much and we are so happy together but it is such a nice feeling to be RIGHT for once! LOL. I did have my doubts, especially recently. But I think all of this happened for a reason and one of those reasons was to make sure I chose this...that it didn't just "happen". I could have left and said no. I have other options and choices I could make. But I really do want this.
Well, enough sap. We talked with Alyse (only 3.5 remember) and she is happy but also I think jealous and worried that she is losing me - not gaining a father. Jack and I will be started the rights removal/adoption of her soon. I think the rights have to go first...I need to call the lawyer this week.
That is it for now. I know I haven't posted much lately because I was upset with some feedback. But I am glad that this time I was correct. I found it interesting that Jack's best friend's feedback was really off too - based on assumptions. He thought I was pushing him, trying to trap him, and a gold-digger.
OH well! I don't give a rear about that junk! I am just plan happy and don't carea bout a ring or even the wedding - I just want to start living my life with him now, from this day forward. As far as I am concerned the rest is just added stuff. We have made the commitment now and that is that :)
I am SOOOOOO HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laura

Kim
His dad is kind of a jerk, his mom is a little sheltered and sort of a religious zelot with weird ideas on marriage/divorce, he is a momma's boy - or so I thought. His dad is a millionaire who has threatened to disown him several times and made it clear on several occassions that he had a certain "idea" of who/what kind of woman he should marry. One with children/child who was divorced wasn't good. His mom had some bad preconceived ideas as well.
Basically he was afraid that his family would be hurt by a bad reaction and that things would not be easy, good, or possibly even bareable. I also found that he went through a lot as a child to make him have that fear and learned a lot os circumstances that led to that. I am nervous still though that they will not like me. But that is OK. He has assured me that if anything should come up that made me feel uncomfortable he would be on my side 100%.
I think with his sister recently adopting a little baby girl and his parents divorcing everyone has got a new perspective on what is REALLY important, so that helped too!
Laura
Timing is everything. Congrats, best wishes and big hugs, my dear Laura!!
Keep us posted. And hurry to pick out that ring!
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It has been a roller coaster.
Best wishes Laura.
Laura,
Congratualations! I love to hear good news like that. It also renews my hope for finding the same thing in my own life. Enjoy it!
Amy