Why am I so nervous?

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Why am I so nervous?
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:09pm

Gee, for some silly reason, I'm nervous about talking to J tonight.

I feel like I have to keep myself within some sort of boundary all of a sudden.

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:20pm

Hi Brian,

Do you think it's because you showed signs of your affection with the flowers/note thing and now you're just feeling a little emotionally vulnerable?

Or maybe it's because you got a mixed reaction here from the ladies and you're more self conscious about revealing how you feel for fear of what J's reaction might be?

Or maybe you're falling in love, or think that you might be able to fall in love with this one.

Wow, I love to do psychological detective work!

Amy

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Registered: 12-30-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:35pm

When you really like someone, you tend to think at that person a lot. And you ask yourself too many questions. It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous. In fact, I think it’s a good sign.

You plan to call her and ask for the third date? I bet as soon as you’ll hear her pretty voice, it’ll go away. The signs are good. She seems to appreciate your romantic side. Good luck and enjoy!

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:39pm

"Do you think it's because you showed signs of your affection with the flowers/note thing and now you're just feeling a little emotionally vulnerable?"

Yes.

"Or maybe it's because you got a mixed reaction here from the ladies and you're more self conscious about revealing how you feel for fear of what J's reaction might be?"

Yes.

"Or maybe you're falling in love, or think that you might be able to fall in love with this one."

Yes.

Some detective! You really narrowed in on that one!

B-

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:48pm

I think you are nervous because you are starting to get your hopes up and you know if this doesn't go somewhere, that you will be disappointed. That is totally normal. It's good to have your hopes up. You might be putting your heart at risk in the very near future and that is great (it's also scary). Now is the time to remind yourself 1) go slow, no need to rush a good thing and 2) if it doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be. The idea is to slow the faucet of emotion down, not turn it off. This will keep your heart protected until you are a little more certain it's going where you think it's going, and also keep you from scaring her away.

And remember, this is supposed to be fun! LOL.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 3:56pm

Gotta love a man in touch with his feelings!

TBone... I really hope that things work out for you. It is truly wonderful to get those feelings, and know they are returned.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 4:02pm

Brian, don't let our woman talk make you nervous. We love having you on the board as much as we love having Michael. Michael has been around a lot longer then I have and that would mean over 3yrs. Your the newbie! Because we don't always hear from Michael several times a month he'll disappear, we are just dying for some Guy incentive! I'm very happy your on this board! What a great refreshment to get an opinion from a male perspective. The more the merrier! I certainly learn from you and I sure the heck don't hope that us poking our noses in everything would scare you away. We are just dang curious to get the scoop and as far as some of us are concerned, we believe that you have some secrets to share on the MALE side of things. LOL. I'm just kidding, but you are a great asset to the board, so I hope you won't let some of our comments on the thread towards you or to each other scare you off. As far as I'm concerned the members on this board are my cyber family.

Huggies,

Catherine

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 4:39pm

Maybe after 3 dates you have to assume it's not just a fluke? And so you'll risk being rejected if you get close?


Relax...


Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all...some famous person said that. *wink*

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 7:29am

That is okay - and fun - like you are 16 again.

Only think about today and then you will be fine.