Why is this bugging me so much?
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Why is this bugging me so much?
| Sun, 08-31-2008 - 12:26pm |
So I never heard from summer guy again. I have been on dating sites and have started up conversations with a bunch of guys, some seem promising, a few having me laughing hysterically (I think that is so hot). So why do I keep thinking about summer guy? Is it the fact that one day we are talking about spending the weekend together with kids and then practically the next day he won't speak to me? I realize the silent treatment is a huge red flag, but geez, I had such a good time with him. I want to move on, but do you think that the fact that I had no "closure" (I don't know what caused the sudden change, plus I like to learn from my mistakes) is the reason this is still gnawing at me?

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All of this makes me realize that my marriage was so based on me constantly trying to please a person who didn't deserve it. The stuff I "overlooked" to keep the peace...oh, it makes me so mad. But it got me in the habit of ignoring stuff that didn't feel good, putting up with stuff that most women would have left him for...I guess I am still in that mindset. So, yes, I do wonder what I did or said wrong, and wonder what I could have done differently, so that is why it was bugging me.
But as everyone has pointed out, I didn't know THIS side of this guy. And after a husband who would pull the silent treatment, it must be triggering all sorts of weird reflexes in me.
Forgive and move on. I guess that is the motto for the week! Thank you!!!!
And after a husband who would pull the silent treatment, it must be triggering all sorts of weird reflexes in me.
I see this a huge opportunity for you to go deeper in your healing from your marriage. Ah, yes, whenever we are hurt by someone new.. it can be a pathway back to a deeper hurt... Stirring that stuff back to the surface...
I'm happy for you that you have this opportunity and pray that as you forgive again... You are healed. Praise Jesus. Amen
(sorry to go religious but i feel it soo strongly in this case that i had to give praise to where praise is due...)
Thanks for sharing your story. It has helped me too.
Loonybunny
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