Why can't I be Stonger??? I feel weak.

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Why can't I be Stonger??? I feel weak.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:18pm

Right now I wish my relationship was better with Blue Eyes.

~Pacific~

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:32pm

It's been a rough week since you both argued. Don't be so rough on yourself. Of course your feeling depressed because the conversation regarding you moving forward in your relationship backfired.


Is it possible for you to take a few days off starting Thursday and Friday for yourself?


I definitely think you shouldn't reach out to him. Give him the space as the article you posted suggested. I think both of you might need a little time to think about your best interests. You both just came back from a fantastic trip from Italy. You should try to think and focus about the good in your relationship, BUT you should also join some of the meetups we discussed and do a little on your own too. I know this is really very difficult for you. I can really feel your pain and your worries.


I think the worst part about this, is that you wished that topic would never even have come up. However, I think you should'n't forget about it, but don't keep going back to wanting to talk to him. That might make him pull back even further. Try to breath, relax and keep posting here. We are here for you and I am sure it will all work out. You both just hit a little bit of a glitch, but I know it'll work out. Keep focusing on your wants and needs and yourself.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:50pm

Is it possible for you to take a few days off starting Thursday and Friday for yourself?


I might just do that, Cat.

~Pacific~
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 7:57pm
This is a good idea - take time for you where you can FORGET all of these thoughts - and then after such break you come back renewed and you know what to do. Doing something outdoors is a great idea - that always works for me.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 8:32pm

I haven't started a group yet, but how much do they want you to pay to start one up? Can't be that expensive. I know I've had to pay yearly dues of $5 - $20 a year or sometimes it was sponsered so it was free. How much are they asking? I would contact them and ask what happens if no one signs up. Don't give up on the idea of starting a group. If the disc golf doesn't work, I would definitely think of a wine group. That will get many people going and I could give you some great tips on what we do here in N.C.


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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:09pm

Oh Honey - Ugh. It

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:43pm

Well, the meet up site I was on charges $19 for one month, or $14 a month if you sign up for 3 months, or

~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:44pm

Thanks for your hugs and support. I know time will tell- but wow I hate the waiting. That is why I am trying hard to occupy myself! See these are the times I wish I had a huge bunch of girlfriends here to take me away for a night and keep my mind off of things!!


~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:46pm
Good luck tonite. Let us know how it

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:19pm

I know

April

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:53pm

many a guy who never told me what was on their mind--I had to sit and dwell by myself which is when you start to make assumptions that are not true.

~Pacific~

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