Why is it so hard to meet a decent guy??

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Why is it so hard to meet a decent guy??
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 10:48pm
The age old question, huh?
I sometimes feel like I've tried everything! The bar scene, online, kids events, grocery store....yada yada. I'm coming up empty! It seems like the guys out there are usually just out for one thing, and if they're not; they turn out to be head cases(said in the nicest way)! I sometimes feel like I have a sign on my back attracting these guys!
It's not like I'm unattractive either, I have 30-something guys looking at me in the club(and I'm in my early 40's!)...the only problem is they're only after one thing! Help!!!! What am I doing wrong? Does anyone know where the nice guys hang??? :-\ Thanks!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-08-2005 - 11:16pm
There are nice men out there, just keep your nonsense gauge set to zero and keep your sense of humor about you. I figure that it's a number game...the more you meet, the more likely that you'll find someone. It's about timing, too.
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 6:03am

You just have to keep trying everything and to be patient. Do everything you can to expand your social circle - that is - keep making new friends and friends of their friends.

I find that exercising and being at sporting events can be good. Although I am your age and still single so I obviously don't have the magic formula down to a science, either!! But I am having fun along the way. There are many times I relish being single - I think this helps me to have patience.

The main point, as the downbythebay said, is to keep your BS gauge to 0 and be aware - that way you don't waste time with someone who doesn't want the same thing as you. I think that is half the battle.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 8:54am

Welcome to the board...


What a can of worms your post is. LOL


There are lots of different thoughts on that...and I've asked myself that question many times.


There are good men out there. Sadly not even

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 9:52am

How many more women are their then men? I always have the impression, their are more men then women, but I guess that depends where I go.

As for where to meet a descent guy, that is REALLY hard. I don't have that luck, no matter where I meet them. Either I meet them online, and they start up with sex or I meet them on the go and they just see my face and body and want to schlepp me to the nearest bed. I never really have the feeling of a guy wanting to just be with me. They all have some serious sexual tension. LOL

I do agree that lot's of men do want to stay single, because they usually felt so trapped in their relationships or marriages and now they want some freedom. I can relate to that as well, but I've dated almost 4yrs now and I am finally at a point that I am looking for something more serious.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 10:50am

When you talk about our general age group I think single women outnumber men. Even if they don't, the number of men who want to marry is probably less than the number of women who do, don't you think? And as we get older, it doesn't look to get any better.


http://news.tbo.com/news/MGBT8QDKZ2E.html


In my area there are certainly more single women looking for a