why would a man invite me to his place
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| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 6:47pm |
when he lives like a pig???
I cannot believe that I was invited to his place when he hadn't cleaned up. I should have been warned because he wore the same shirt he wore when I met him 2 months ago--casual, faded, polo shirt--to a nice restaurant!! His apartment was completely cluttered--no clean surface--even the floor! There were dirty socks on the coffee table, as well as nail clippers! He tried to nonchalantly pick up the socks(then threw them in the corner!!) He left the nail clippers on the table. The apartment was also strewn with stuff he inherited last Sept--pictures, sculptures, etc. Holy cow. He served me a glass of wine in a dirty wine glass!
I couldn't get out of there fast enough.
When I did leave, he walked me to my car, and proceeded to stick his tongue down my throat. I was shocked--turned my head suddenly and jumped towards my car. (I never felt in danger--just found it bizarre)
I guess--if he calls me--that I'll just say it's not a match.
Looking forward to meeting a neat freak!

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I didn't think you were being critical, just stating how you felt. Most men are less aware of the mess than a woman would be. Of course, I would clean up if I was having someone that didn't know me over (maybe why I haven't invited anyone). But as a general rule, love me, love the clutter (LOL).
Its all good
Priscilla
I was having conversations with a guy a year or so ago and the topic turned to laundry. He said that every time his mother came to his house she always told him to put his clothes away. He went on to say that he just keeps all his clean clothes in laundry baskets. This man was in his 40's and his mother has to tell him to put his clothes away!!!! I am by no means a clean freak but my mother doesn't have to remind me to put my things away.
Kudos on the teenager daughter changing clothes 50x's a day .... I have the same problem. I don't even look at her room!!! I was making her do her own laundry, but then she got to washing like one outfit at a time!!!! To say the least, that didn't work.
ok, just to clarify, was this the FIRST date with this guy? Just trying to caution you that you shouldn't date anyone on OLD and go to their pad or vice versa until you have dated them socially a few times. I recommend about 4 dates. Not that he would have done anything, but just shoving his tongue down your throat is an alarm to me.
As for the pig sty, my place is no beauty. I'm with Moody and Priscilla when it comes to that. Both of my girls change clothes several times the day and I think the idea of Moody and the trash bag sounds VERY appealing to me. I have several more important things to do in my life, but I don't keep it filthy; just not spotless.
No, it was 2nd date--and normally I wouldn't go to his place--I didn't get the aggressive making out vibe from him. And the kiss was just weird. I didn't feel violated at all--just perplexed and grossed out. Most importantly, they don't come to my house and meet my DD.
Another think which helps with the safety question is that I seem to keep meeting men who have people in common with me. For instance, this guy went to college in Vermont with my brother, and his X and kids live across the street from one of my best friends....So, living in a smallish city has its advantages and disadvantages. I always seem to have people/schools in common with them. Too bad they haven't panned out yet!
You are pretty new to the dating scene. I would not fret too much about the frogs you came across. :) You know the saying.......
Anyone else interesting in the picture?
Just my real-life crush, who I'm still in touch with, and a widower (who's wife died 5 yrs ago) that some friends are trying to fix me up with. This one sounds good--successful, ski house in New Hampshire, 10yo D (mine is 7).....crossing my fingers that he calls, but if he doesn't it's his loss!
And, actually an e-mail from my DD's friend's Dad informing me that he & his wife and getting divorced--very nice and smart man.... I might be willing to take it really slow with him--but need to find out more about what went on.
Somone on POF e-mailed me the other day--seemed ok. Thanks for reminding me--I need to respond.
Thanks for the encouragement--I am in a mode of amusement, so that's good!
Mary
Lol- my son DOES wear the same outfit for a week at a time, I will wash it on laundry day and then he'll decide he wants to wear it again... Same with ripped jeans- I get some stuff from my ex's sister that went through two boys and he seems to wear them out in a matter of months- I'm wondering if these kids PLAYED at all!!!
I have very few rules for clothes with my kids as well. One of the few things they have power over and can decide. They don't always match (and sometimes the pants are very short) but I try to make sure they are clean. Not always easy but I do my best. There are more rules for the girl than for the boys, but since I buy the clothes it is easy to control what comes in to the house. I don't want my 7yo dressing like a stripper. Otherwise I don't care what any of them want to wear, as long as they are happy.
Priscilla
Mary - I agree with you. My house isn't always neat as a pin (i have kids too), but if guests are coming over - even if I think someone may be coming over- I make an effort to make it presentable. How very non-chalant about it he was is just as creepy as how the place looked.
On a related note - I always wonder how guys on match.com and POF get dates or responses when they don't proofread their profile and everything is misspelled.
That is a big pet peeve of mine.
First impressions are so important.
Shortcake.
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