Women drive me crazy!

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Registered: 09-29-2007
Women drive me crazy!
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 11:20am

Hey all,


Its been a while. After last October I had to really think things through.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 11:37am
YES, you ARE crazy. She threw you out of your own house???? Don't mean to be blunt, but you need to grow some balls.
Stephanie
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 12:42pm
Oh dear. It sounds like you need to keep your fingers crossed and see what happens over time. I hope that she will handle the stuff with her exbf better. Did it get better after your talk?
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Registered: 08-10-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 1:49pm

Zen,


Great to "see" you back.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 2:09pm

I must be blunt in saying that if you were a female that posted that on this board most definitely the majority of us would say NEXT!

April

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 2:16pm
I wonder if this is even a real scenario, someone who LOVES drama or just another post to get a slew of responses from us. Everybody has told him to next her.
Steph


Edited 3/31/2008 2:17 pm ET by texas_mom1991
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 2:38pm

I told her that I may not be perfectly comfortable with him in her life but that I would feel better if I knew they had contact and that would not be throwing it in my face. I also told her that she wasn't doing it to protect me, but rather to protect herself, from possibly losing me.


BTDT.....almost verbatim with my guy. He would not tell me about her calls and persistence in order to keep me from getting upset. I finally drew the line and said he had to cut the emotional tie to her now once and for all. She has always been so damn persistent. And so disrespectful of his relationship with me. But then again..it takes two to tango, and if your g/f does not give him reason to keep texting he won't. I had to come to that conclusion on my relationship too.


I got an interesting tidbit and scoop of inside info from my BE's daughter about the persistent witch (broom hilda).

~Pacific~
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 3:27pm

*I* will come to Italy with you. *I* deserve it, not her! lol


Seriouslyl though - it sucks this trip is NOW. Did you have trip insurance or anything that you can cancel or postpone this? Its NOT like you guys are new to this relationship & she failed to mentions her X - this is a LONG standing LIE from her. Almost like living another life. She sounds selfish, immature AND ungrateful. You are better that that!

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 6:49pm
Welcome back Zen, I've been wondering how you've been!
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:11pm

Yes, you ARE crazy, Zen!!!!!


But, to continue to date her is your choice, even if it doesn't even seem to be always HER choice. You're just conveniently there, IMO (and you deserve better than that).


Doesn't seem like things changed too much since you posted about her last, even though you guys had some smooth months in between there. Do you really think she didn't talk to the ex-bf all that time, or you just never caught her at it? I'm thinking she probably stayed in touch all along. And for her to get angry (read: defensive) when you asked her about the phone calls/texts... then I think it's pretty much guaranteed that she has something to hide (that she KNOWS isn't right to do as she is dating you). She's mad at you, because she got caught.


Does dating this woman bring you peace? If not, then you should NEXT her and move on. Like we all know on the board here... relationships should not be this hard. They require effort and energy, sure- but not this much grief and heartache and drama.


~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 8:07pm

"Apparently her previous dates and ex-husband were pretty dumb, since she says no one ever was able to do this before." That line bears repeating "Apparently her previous dates and ex-husband were pretty dumb, since she says no one ever was able to do this before.!!!!!!!"

She does this ALL THE TIME. Cheating, whether it is full blown sexual infidelity or emotional cheating, is betrayal. This woman needs the drama, the intrigue, the feeling she is getting away with something, to feel good about herself. How dare you figure it out and call her on it. She feels she is supposed to get away with it. Face it, Zen, this is part of her core personality. She is not going to have some kind of epiphany and change her ways just for you.

It is your choice to continue to live with this dramafest in your life. She won't stop, she'll just get sneakier. And yeah, XBF is really trying to let you know he's in the picture, he doesn't respect your relationship so he actively is sabotaging your relationship. I say, let him have her, they deserve one another.

QueenBun

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