Women drive me crazy!

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Women drive me crazy!
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 11:20am

Hey all,


Its been a while. After last October I had to really think things through.

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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 10:26pm

Hey all!

Thanks for chimin' in.

This is all real Steph. Things were moving along much better and she actually has matured in a few small but important areas. No, you can't chang someone, but since she has been with me she has been exposed to a lot more very mature people and situations.

As for Italy, well Rebecca, I'll take you but you have to wear your Spanx then take them off in a sexy way in front of me! LOL! Just kidding. If this were three weeks ago I actually might have asked you to go. Same for you Liz, Queenie and anyone else. After our argument I was trying to round up potential travel companions.

I have insurance but pretty much you have to be dead or a tidal wave has to take you out to cash it in. I'm not worrying about it. I need the vacation anyway. We have had some deeper conversations this past week. I think that I'll enjoy the time anyway.

The trip may be good for us. I'm not going to think of it as couple's therapy, but it may be the one thing she needs to understand what being with me means. This will make her second time out of the country on a vacation paid by me. That's more then she had in her marriage, and more then ex-bf ever did for her. I have always kept my promises to her, and this is no exception. When we had the fight and she said it was over she told her friends that she lost the love of her life, the one man who understood her. This will give her the chance to show me she really meant that.

Okay, so I enjoy the drama a little. Better to have some drama and feel alive then have no drama and be bored.

I have a trip to Hawaii coming up at the end of the summer Rebecca.....

Zen

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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 10:43pm

Hey Zen,
Have fun on your trip. What strikes me is that the women who commented here are jumping up and down about your girlfriend being the "bad guy" in this relationship. My view is that it takes two and sometimes three to make a relationship - victim, perpetrator, and rescuer. I have also heard the phrase, "there are no victims, only volunteers."

The reason for your posting is to ask if you are crazy? And you said you like drama. It sounds it was more of a rhetorical question then yes?

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 10:51pm

Oh yes, Mark- we're "jumping up and down" about her being the bad guy- because she is playing Zen for all she can!


But we're also in agreement that Zen is NUTS for knowing that she plays him... and taking her back again anyway. A few pleading "I'm sorrys" and she's right back in!! That's where you keep hearing the "NEXT" comments!!! If he keeps going back for more... then he IS crazy like his own question asks!


We just want to support Zen... so yeah- she's the bad guy. And the ex-bf is too- for contacting her when he KNOWS she is dating someone.


~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 1:19am

Hey Zen,


I am new here......


The definition of crazy........doing exactly the

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 9:11am
I don't think Zen has one ounce of self respect and I also don't think he is interested in truly finding a solution. He comes here for the attention and to hear all the ladies tell him how badly he is being treated and how they would love to date him. It is a way for him to boost his ego and get attention.

Steph


Edited 4/1/2008 9:34 am ET by texas_mom1991
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:15am

Zen ... Zen ... Zen ... there IS no way to sexily remove Spanx. BUT, given the amount of red VINO i tend to comsume while in Italy, well ... lets just say that at that point, I could care less about having Spanx on!

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 12:36am

Rebecca darling, Hmmmm....never thought about stripping Spanx off you...but now I am...(wink, wink, nudge, nudge.) Rhode Island isn't too far away. Oh, and my house on the Jersey shore hasn't had visitors in a while.

As for engineer boy, don't count him out yet. First, I'm an engineer. This time last year I was on my way to Iraq. I was about 40lbs overweight. I came back only 15 pounds overweight. I have lost the rest and now sit at just above my college playing weight. One thing my crazy girlfriend did do right was date me and stay with me even though I was heavy. She tells many people how she found the "diamond in the rough." Your engineer might be the same.

Oh, and yes Mark, the "am I crazy" was quite rhetorical. Figured I'd come here and just say hi to everyone. Actually, didn't hear as many "NEXT" as I expected to. Hadn't been here in a while, missed you all. Figured I'd share my most recent escapade.

Have a good nite,

Zen

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:36am

Actually, didn't hear as many "NEXT" as I expected to.


Okay, then, I'll chime in with my "NEXT!" just to get your count up.

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:35am

ohhh Yoda...you strike again LOL


Zen...raising my hand "NEXT"


Sorry...M

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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 4:05pm

Actually, didn't hear as many "NEXT" as I expected to. Hadn't been here in a while, missed you all. Figured I'd share my most recent escapade.


Yeah, Zen... you ARE addicted to the drama. You picked the right GF for that, and I'm glad you are getting your payoff- as you said... it keeps you feeling alive, because without the drama, you'd be bored. After reading that last comment above, I now see that you hadn't posted too much here for awhile because, as you said in the original post- that things were going well. So you had no drama to share with us! But now that you have yet again proven yourself correct in suspecting that your GF was "cheating" on you with the contact with her ex-bf... then you now had some drama to share, you return to post again! I get it now. Not that I don't want you to keep on posting and sharing with the board- just that it is odd to look back and realize that you posted just to expand the drama stories. What about the GOOD stories, when things are going well?


I think you didn't get a many "Nexts" as you expected... because we'd all "Nexted" her the first time, and there was no reason to vote again. She hasn't changed!!! (And she won't)


I do think it's fun having you around the board, Zen (the male input is interesting!)... just don't make it ONLY when you have drama with your GF, okay?


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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