Women . . . why not ask a guy out?
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Women . . . why not ask a guy out?
| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 11:23pm |
In my life long quest to better understand women . . . i came across this topic from another resource, so I Thought why not go as the some women . . "why dont more girls ask guys out?"
why do guys all ways have to be the one to ask a lady out? this after all is a new century and some of us guys are just to shy to ask the ladies.
If you wanted a new car, would you get the one you wanted? If you were buying a house, wouldnt you get the one you wanted? For most anything else women and men have to 'go after' what it is that they want . . .
One woman said. . . "women don't do it cause the they don't have to. It's uncomfortble to risk rejection. Why not just let the guys do it? It's easier. Women take the easy way out. It's as simple as that. "
What are your thoughts???

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I'm not afraid of rejection and I'm not shy; I just don't want to waste my time with someone who's not all that interested in me. I make my interest and receptiveness to an invitation very clear (as in "we should go see that movie we were talking about sometime"), but stop short of asking someone out.
Sheri
If you want a very thorough explanation to your question, you should read Mars Venus On a Date. Men and women are fundamentally different when it comes to courtship, dating, relationships, sex and emotional needs.
I believe it is okay to encourage conversation or ask for help. But it is not okay to bluntly ask a guy out on a date.
I just had a good friend, who is a guy, email me a story about how he met this really cute girl when he was out on a run. He had to go around the block 3 times before he got up the courage to talk to her. Finally he stopped to chat. He commented to her that she looked athletic and that he is always looking for someone to run with. She was very smooth and said something to the effect of "If I gave you my phone number, would you give me a call sometime to go for a run?"
He was delighted at first but then when he got home he worried that she was too forward with offering her number.
The bottom line when it comes to this subject and men - look your best, be your best but most of all be PATIENT and don't appear over-eager or desparate.
I am in a relationship now, so I'm not dating. When I was dating I actively looked for the kind of man I wanted with personals ads, and I would send responses to ads I liked. I actually preferred this to having my ad up and letting guys respond. I got a lot of weirdos that way, but could be more selective if I was doing the responding.
If someone showed interest after chatting and receiving a good picture of me, then there usually wasn't an "asking out" event, really. We "agreed" to see each other.
Rejection is just part of the process, and it works both ways.
With the man I'm seeing now, once he saw a pic, and we talked on the phone there was no doubt he wanted to meet me. I responded first, so I guess I made the first move.
Hi nashmba, I think it works both ways, but it totally depends on the two people, the scenario they are in at the moment, and all kinds of factors.
Since the dawn of man, the way of men and women has been....man
I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. BUT, I think the reason that it's the man that asks the woman out more often is simply a matter of biology. You guys are "wired" to be the agressor. We are the opposite. So, we fall into those rolls and actions naturally. There's always the exception.
Just my two cents. I'll read the rest now and see what everyone else had to say.
I believe it is okay to encourage conversation or ask for help. But it is not okay to bluntly ask a guy out on a date
I don't quite agree with this statement. I think it IS ok. But I think it's on a man by man basis for us women. We can tell which ones are the ones who need "encouragement" to ask us out and which ones are NEVER going to get around to it. Me personally? I ran across a few I liked who I found out later REALLY
CONFIDENCE in a man is one of the most attractive traits, to a woman.
Sherry<with 3 kids, 2 beautiful granddaughters
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