wondering if I should send or move on

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Registered: 05-06-2008
wondering if I should send or move on
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 9:25pm

My flame seems to have blown me off. Two nights ago, lying in his arms, talking about our kids, watching TV, a real good night, the next AM quickly exchanged texts, ignored since then. The signs point to... Decided to write this, not sure if I should send. Please tell me what you think

Dear X,
I guess I kind of got used to you replying to my texts ASAP, so forgive me if not responding to three has me a little worried. I hope nothing bad is happening for you. But as I think I said, I am not a game player, so if something is happening I prefer to know upfront, rather than sit back and wonder what the hell happened.

Kind of went into this thing a little curious as to how it would progress. I had only been on a couple of dates post-divorce, and you were the first person who really expressed any interest in me, which was really flattering. I enjoyed your company, your mischievous smile made me feel like I was really having fun again. Quite honestly, I wasn't looking to have anything serious go on, but unfortunately, I did find myself developing some feeling for you. Scared the hell out of me, to be sure, because, well, I was fearful of feeling the way I am right now. And it probably explains why I may have seemed aloof when I was screaming at the top of my lungs inside my head.

Now, I am a big girl, so I understand not everything in the world is going to work out the way I want it to. That being said, I just wanted you to know a few things...I want to thank you for treating me so nicely when we were together. It was great for me to be treated that way and to feel like someone could really find me attractive again. I want to commend you for being a great dad. Your DVD of him nearly had me in tears. You are so gentle and kind with him, he is really lucky to have you as his dad. In the bedroom...I can't even explain how great that was for me.

Haven't finished it, but it is so weird, even though I am being blown off, he really did me a huge favor in some ways. After years of being told that I was undesirable by ex, I know that he was wrong. This makes me so sad, not only because I read him wrong, but that I had started to really like him and thought maybe it would lead to something.

Should I bother sending it?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 2:54pm

Writing it out is theraputic and I do encourage you to do that- it's just the SENDING that I discourage LOL!


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Registered: 03-25-2002
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 6:35pm

what i've found is that THIS board is a great place to write an email like that... because we've all been there and we understand how you feel.. And moving on is a process. We are here for each other.. I love that i can vent or reflect (ect) on this board. It has kept me from sending long emails or text messages that were better left unsent.


with my last heart break..

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 7:30pm

I agree with everyone about not sending the letter.

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