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Working things out
| Wed, 07-23-2008 - 11:35pm |
I like how Blue Eyes and I work things out these days. I swear it's taken time, but we seem to be able to get along without too much drama anymore..and when things happen it's so much less often these days. The drama daughter has not been an issue at all for months. Which seems to coincide with BH not calling him anymore. I am so relieved. And he drinks considerably less these days. He is very conscious of it.

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Hey Pac.
Thanks, Kat..
Yes, acceptance and respect are big. It seems we have learned (and are still learning) to respect each others feelings and work towards coming to the middle rather than both of us pulling tightly in a power play. It is a phase we're transitioning into and it feels, well, solid. As I walked away from that misunderstanding yesterday I had a sense of securuty, safety, knowing it was not the end of the world. Before I would have over reacted. So we are growing.. thanks for your words!
Thanks Moon,
Yeah, it feels good to be on common groud..it feels sturdy and comfortable. Thanks for popping in and checkin on us today especially with all you have going on. You are do dear!
XO
Evolving is a good way to describe it!
I talked to him last night, and he said he feels the same- more solid with me because we have stopped over reacting with each other and can calmly talk. It's taken almost two years but really the "work" only started a few months ago. It does take work to negotiate a common ground and get to where you are comfortable with how you work things out...unless of course you are blessed with a relationship where you never ever butt heads over anything. But who has that, lol?
I've been trying to get to that point too.
Thanks for those kind words!
What felt good yesterday was that I got home still ticked- then it hit me, I was acting like a brat. I swalled my big pride pill, just picked up the phone and called him back. It is so much easier now.. for both of us. We have fostered a new level of trust and I'm happy about that :o)
JH
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