Worried that I'll never have another baby

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Registered: 07-25-2013
Worried that I'll never have another baby
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Thu, 07-25-2013 - 3:16pm

Hi,

I'm new here and hoping to find other single moms to relate to. I guess it's just my biological clock starting to tick more loudly but lately I have really been upset by the fact that I may never have another baby. I just have my one daughter and I had always dreamed of having a large family. I've dated some but most men seem to be scared off by the fact that I have a child!

I wonder how much longer I should wait before I seriously look into other options like donor insemination. Sigh, this is not how I envinsioned my life to be!

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Yes it's true, you might not have another baby.  We don't always get everything that we want in life.  I didnt' expect to be divorced twice w/ no boyfriend at age 55 either.  I don't like the fact that I might be alone for the rest of my life but if that happens I'll have to deal with it.  There are a lot of women who like children who dont' have any children, like my married SIL and BIL who both wanted children, but biologically it never happened for them and for whatever reasons, they didn't adopt.  Not all men are scared to date a single mom but those guys who have kids of their own & are more likely to be willing to date a single mom might also not want more kids.  And if you have more kids on your own, it also might decrease your chances for finding a guy too.

Before you go down the path of trying to have more kids on your own, have you considered things like--1) do you have the money to take care of more kids, since you would obviously not be getting child support if you do it on your own, 2) do you have the time & energy to take care of a baby all by yourself?  I know there are a lot of single parents but most single parents at least had the other parent around during the baby time.  3) Do you have a lot of friends and family around to support you in case you need help, babysitting, get sick or whatever.