would this upset anyone else

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would this upset anyone else
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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 2:53pm
i was talking about the birth of my son with my SO and i told him that he was 8lbs 4ozs well he goes "thats it you had it easy" because his dd was 10lbs so i said over 8lbs isn't easy and he goes well did you have blood come out of your nose. anyway would this bother anyone else i mean i'm proud of my birth and that i didn't end up needed any drugs for the pain. just because his dd was 2lbs bigger than my ds doesn't make my birth easy and i thought it was rude of him to say so.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 2:56pm
Did HE deliver his dd??????? No?????? Didn't think so! Enough said!

Good for you. I had epidurals with both (YAY!) and Alex was my biggest at 8lbs. 10oz. My youngest was only 5 lbs. 2 oz. and he was born breech, and I had to push so hard to get him out I got a nosebleed and bursted all of the veins in my face. So? What's the point????

Don't let him discount the pride you feel in delivering your child naturally. Besides, child birth isn't a competition!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 3:27pm

Yeah, it would bug me.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 3:56pm
thanks girls as long as i'm not crazy i'm not going to let it bother me it was one of those things that when he said it it was like low blow. i know he didn't mean it how i took it.
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 3:56pm
I think it depends - does he do this on everything? I could forgive the one-ups-manship on the topic of kids because all parents are like that. If you are proud of your birth then you have to have that be enough for you and you do not need his approval.

But if he communicates this way on everything that is a different story.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:09pm
no that was only comment comparing me to his ex if that's what you mean it's not that i need his approval i don't think anyone likes to be compared to a ex
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:13pm
You could tell him, "when YOU have a baby, we can compare notes then, ok?"

LOL

Alison

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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:17pm
but he was with her the whole time lol

like thats the same thing

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:52pm
Well, lets see him pass a Kidney stone!

Kim

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:58pm
ouch kim!!


LOL

and being WITH the woman giving birth is STILL not giving birth. so again, until he has a baby he can compare then.

men.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 8:01pm
Personally I think that is sort of silly to worry about. You can have a 4lb baby and have a terrible birth with horrible things happening. A 7 lb baby can be born after days of hard labor in which case you probably would need drugs just to get some sleep to have energy to push.

It is fine to be proud of your birth experience but who cares if it was hard or not. They are all hard in some way. Besides, what does he know? I would look at the big picture and see if he makes it a habit of belittling you and your experiences. Sounds like he is competing and I don't see that as a good thing.

If it is just this blow it off.

L

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