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| Mon, 12-03-2007 - 8:53pm |
that I got a message on my myspace page from a guy that SEEMS nice and is actually attractive?? I get some weird messages sometimes and just delete them. I have totally given up on online dating and have been having fun with my friends and working on my side business.
Anyway, we have exchanged several emails and he gave me his number. My friend checked out his profile along with the people on his friends list. We didn't see anything that would raise a red flag or indicate he is a player. I am a little concerned because he doesn't have kids. He is also listed as single, not divorced. So, I don't know if he is a lifetime bachelor. I dated one of those and it was an experience to say the least! LOL!
So, this could be interesting. I am sure not gonna get my hopes up, but I never even considered myspace as a dating avenue. I just set up my page to keep up with my daughter and some other friends!
Stephanie

Sounds like you should give him a chance - maybe some calls and a first date and see how it goes?
BTW - that is how MA found me - I had set up a facebook account to keep up with my coach and his other athletes whom I have met. Then I started looking up old classmates and came across a mutual acquantaince. To ease your fears, MA is a 45 and never been married. But the thing is that he has always wanted to be married and never met someone who would want to marry him or who was a real match for him. Sure, we do have some funny differences, but it is very manageable because he views me as MsRight and wants to make us work.
I think the biggest difference for a bachelor is that they are used to living their whole life centered around themselves. But this doesn't mean that they can't adapt, especially if they really like you and are committed to making it work. MA has other brothers and sisters with kids and his parents live close by and he is very used to helping all of them and being a part of their families. Ditto with his partner's family.
I guess what I would suggest is to be firm on your boundaries of what works for you as a single mom and then see how he adapts?
For us it means I have to go to go to bed early and he was used to staying up really late. At first he wore me out on the phone and I did have fun talking to him but then I would be tired the next day. He switched his sleeping schedule and we have a curfew on the phone. We do discuss our differences.
I must say it is a lot easier that he does not have an exw and kids in the picture - that to me would be hard to juggle from two sides.
So give it a whirl!!
OK Judy! I feel much better after reading your post!! As usual, you have good advice and perspective. I go to bed early too and I did think about how nice it would be for someone not to have the baggage of an ex spouse. Especially since mine is a wacko!
I will give him a call and see how it goes. I kept thinking about this song Brad Paisley sings called "So Much Cooler Online". It is about a short overweight guy who lives in his parent's basement. He set up a myspace account and makes himself a tall hottie from LA! LOL!
I am so glad things are going well with you guys!
Stephanie
Have a fantastic time - but tie your camel
Seriously, I know you can't be too careful. The number gave me is a cell phone with Sprint. I did see where he lived in Austin and Florida. He told me this in an email, so that is good to know he seems truthful.
Stephanie
Well, "doesn't have a criminal record" - now that is a good start ;-)
Okay - keep us posted!!!!!
Stephanie