Would you get back together w/ your ex

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Would you get back together w/ your ex
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Sun, 04-27-2008 - 12:08am

Would you get back together with your ex-husband? Why or why wouldn't you?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 12:10am

Nope. Nada. Ixnay.


I wouldn't trust him not to drink.


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Registered: 06-18-2006
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 12:28am

I'm in that situation right now as my ex-husband asked me a month or so ago if it was possible for us to reconcile. This is to top off my being emotionally attached/in love with someone who's become distant (see previous post) and I will probably next this guy or tell him I'm busy if he ever calls/texts again.

It's been less than year since we divorced. I felt like I was never a good enough wife to him - the house wasn't clean enough, I didn't make enough money when I returned to work... I think that I'm pretty open minded about listening to other people's opinions. I felt that he always thought he was right and that I was wrong on any issue you name it, politics, religion, how we should raise our children, etc. I will accept responsibility for many of the problems in our marriage but I don't think that I'm 99% or 100% to blame.

It's been hard financially as my ex made a very good income. Also it's been hard on our kids, especially my oldest daughter. Most of my friends and even the marriage counselor said that we should not get back together for the kids or the money but because we want to be with each other again. We are civil sometimes friendly towards each other maybe 60% to 70% of the time, more than when we lived under the same roof. At this point it would take a miracle for me to fall in love with my ex.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 9:59am

No way, no how!!!!!!!! He is an EX for a reason, and there is NO reason good enough to counter all the negative reasons!!


Even if he made a ton of money and the kids were all for it (which neither is happening)... I would NOT go for it.


~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 10:04am

I wouldn't either because there's no turning back after a break up.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 10:34am

HA! What a joke THAT is.


In fact, he just proved it to me AGAIN.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 11:18am

NEVER! Not no way no how. I have thrived in the 7 years since our official divorce and my son is now very well adjusted and I believe his life is also better off because I am happy and can provide just fine for both of us. His dad makes an effort to be a good dad so they do have a good relationship.

Hopefully you can figure out a way to bring more money in on your own. I don't think money and kids being sad are enough to warrant a lifetime of misery with the wrong/bad partner.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 1:53pm

As Alison said
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 8:32pm

Well, I guess I have been in a similar situation in determining if my ex(we weren't actually married)

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 8:48pm
No, I don't have a choice now but if I did, no.


Edited 4/27/2008 8:50 pm ET by runspotrun

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 9:00pm
Wow - what a great post - you are doing so good with all of this and I know it is a big milestone - hopefully it will only get better from here!

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