would you have lied?

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Registered: 03-25-2002
would you have lied?
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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 2:16pm

Or another title could be "Family Feud Betrayed Me"...

So my lunch friends and i were watching Family Feud as usual... and the question is

"Name something BAD that every woman has done at least ONCE to a guy."

That spurred a very uncomfortable discussion... The number 1 answer was "Cheated" and lunchamigo asked me... "have you ever cheated on a guy"

D'oh.. would you have said a quick no regardless? My reaction was a silent "ummmmmm" and he said, i guess that's a yes.

Okay so i cheated on my first husband but that was a long time ago and we hadn't slept together in months... but still .... i couldn't honestly say no to the question unless i lied.... Lunchamigo did not think it was funny needless to say... But it isn't like we're dating...

And I feel especially guilty right now because Leo is suddenly showing interest in me. he called again last night but i was busy (perhaps just sexual interest but he's cute ... and i haven't gotten that cold shower yet). While Ozzy calls me everyday just to talk.

what's a girl to do....

Loonybunny

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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 2:41pm

I would love to have your troubles right now!

April

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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 2:42pm

I like to live my life transparently and with no excuses.

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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 4:00pm

My first response was "What's it to him?", or, 'Why should he care?".

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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 4:47pm
I agree. stuff like this should be off limits unless there is an actual commitment on the table. We have all made mistakes but Mark is right - it is what we learned from them. Either way, it is too deep a conversation to have with someone you are just flirting with. Maybe he has some issues about trust he hasnt worked out and was testing? That would also fall under the category of "not your problem" IMO.
Feel proud of yourself that you are past all of that and dont need to lie about who you are and next time instead of answering just say " Is that your real hair?"
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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 5:42pm

Well, thanks for agreeing that i was right NOT to lie....

I didn't really answer him... but it was my silence that caused him to say.. "I guess that's a yes." And I responded after that... "it was a looong time ago" and tried to blow it off. I didn't go into details even though a part of me really wanted to explain myself.. i left it as hey i'm not perfect. It was akwardly quiet for a few minutes....

But you are right... NOT my problem if he was testing. Plus, he had just learned that i was leaving.... dare i say, it looks like he will miss our lunches. Actually, i didn't realize how much i would be missed... but people are coming out of the woodwork to congratulate me on the new job.

Loonybunny

PS Watching the feud will often bring up lots of personal and revealing question and usually sparks laughter however not this time.