Would you participate in this?

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Would you participate in this?
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Sat, 09-04-2004 - 12:16pm
Just wondering...

I've watched a few episodes of TLC's "For Better or For Worse" and I think I'll pass on this. For those of you who aren't familiar with the show, it's where an engaged couple allows some chosen members of family and a few friends along with a planner they have never met plan their wedding in 7 days for $5000. They give up COMPLETE control. No choice on location, colors, dress, flowers, food...nothing.

I can see the good points, don't get me wrong. It's FREE! And I know that planning a wedding, even a small one is stressful. But I think I'd be MORE stressed if I gave up control to people even if I knew them and especially a planner I never met who could care less what I want.

One episode I remember, the bride hated blue for a wedding. She liked the color, but not for a wedding. The planner chose blue for EVERYTHING. Not the bridal gown, but everything else was draped in different shades of blue. Now it was breathtaking. I loved it. Not for me, but it was gorgeous. But it wasn't what the bride would have liked and none of her family or friends would fight for her to get something different. Some of the people DO get scrappy about details. Especially the dress. One mom stormed out of a store over that.

I just don't think I could allow an internet audience, family, friends, anyone pick my dream wedding. I'd rather go thru the stress of months of hard work and have MY way instead of someone else's dream even if it's free.

How about you?

Mel

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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 5:23am

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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 8:12am
I have mixed emotions on this one. After going through the tedious planning for my own wedding to my ex, I would not want to have to do that again - so this sounds tempting.

But I might be tempted to want something small and elegant and would want to do that myself because I don't think others could come up with something I like.

Of course there is always the challenge of finding a worthy GROOM! Can they do that for you???? ;-)

(Okay - forgive the dry humor here - but I have been couped up in my house for 4 days with hurricane Frances!!)

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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 1:24pm


>>>I'd rather go thru the stress of months of hard work and have MY way instead of someone else's dream even if it's free.

How about you?>>>

Personally, my FIRST wedding wasn't that stressful. I made the flowers, a friend sewed my dress, my bridesmaids were all seamstresses and made their own (and they were all simple. I don't believe in big weddings, I think they are wasteful and gaudy. All in all it cost about $200. My wedding will be for me, period, and not a show.

So, my answer is, I WOULDN'T go thru the stress of months of hard work, at ALL. To me that's not what a wedding is about.

The second time around would be very private and where and when would be between me and my man. A sarong and sandals on a secluded beach would be nice, maybe at night with candles in the sand. Then straight to the honeymoon and a couple of mango juices on ice.

Or at a Shinto shrine, street clothes and slip a $20 to the priest, then a picnic under the cherry blossom trees.

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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 1:11pm
I probably wouldn't.

First, I'm not the "big" wedding type. DH and I had a very small, intimate wedding with only immediate family and a few very close friends....I helped write the ceremony with the pastor, we had it in a very elegant reception room instead of the sanctuary...everything was planned just the way we wanted it. I did the flowers, worked with the person doing the cake to customize it just the way I wanted it, worked with the person doing our music, etc.

It wasn't fancy...and it wasn't expensive..but it was "US". That to me is priceless.

Sherry<with 3 kids, 2 beautiful granddaughters