Would you sign a Pre-Nup?

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Would you sign a Pre-Nup?
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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 3:51pm

If you got married again, would you agree to a pre-nup agreement if it was his idea?


Or would you suggest a pre-nup yourself?


What are your thoughts? Has anyone ever asked you about one, and if so how did that feel to be asked?

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 9:55pm

I wouldn't bring one up, but if he did, I would sign it, as long as it was fair and protected all of the children involved.


Right now, I'm just finally getting ahead after my last divorce, so I don't have that much to protect.


Plus, situations change.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 1:03pm

My head tells me it's a smart idea, but my heart hopes that I'll never need one.


Very well summed up. My thoughts exactly!


BE mentioned it about a year ago, when he was tossing around the notion of us being married some day. He owns a house, has retirement plans, etc. I on the other hand have nothing, nada, zilch. Soooo, I can see why he would want one. He has two daughters and three grandchildren that I know he wants to leave inheratance to. I guess I was a bit taken by surprise when he asked me but I said of course I would sign one. Hopefully we wouldn't need one though :o)

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 1:04pm
My husband and I have been married for 10 years.
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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 1:54pm

I think it depends if you are bringing children in from another mix. I am going to sound like a TOTAL B word saying this, but....
My father is very wealthy and one day when he passes (dont want to think about it) He is going to share his wealth with his now wife and her children. Now, the two step kids had their father pass away many years ago and they got an inheritence. I think it's wrong for them to get one from my Dad's, but that's going to happen. It's going to get shared straight down the middle. It makes me so angry that sometimes, I think I should go up the the step sisters and ask them to share the wealth from their Dad to my sister and me.

That sounds awful and selfish, but I don't believe it should be split down the middle. They have their own biological parents. They aren't adopted. I think they deserve something, but not a share share deal. You want to share, they should share with me too.

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:43pm
I agree that's pretty crappy. Have you told your dad how you feel? Would he change it or no?
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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:52pm

It was made VERY clear to my sister and myself that if we were even to mention this, we would be disinherited for being ungrateful brats. LOL

I can see his point, it's his wish and I do feel selfish and bad for thinking such thoughts, but on the other hand, they had so much money shoved in them and we are the rightful heirs who will be taking care of him in the end, should anything happen to my step mom. My step sisters don't even like him, but they are very quick to take. They received money from MY grandmother when she passed away. MY DAD gave it to them. We never saw a dime when my Step Mom's mom passed away. Only her kids got something. So we were treated way unfair their too. The list goes on.

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 10:17pm
I don't think you are being selfish at all. Your dad should know better but we know how men can be sometimes. I would be angry, too. This has recently happened to my friend. Her dad just died and left a considerable amount to his 2nd wife. She is frail and ailing. She is going to leave all of my friend's dad's money to her 6 children. So wrong!!!

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