Would you stay if he cheated?

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Would you stay if he cheated?
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:00pm
If so, why? If not, why?

Some of us went thru this before. My ex cheated. I had left him before I knew for sure. We had other issues that caused me to go, but I found out for sure he strayed and definitely was not prepared to go back.

I am not strong enough to accept that and move on. Or maybe I just didn't love him enough to try.

Shane's cousin had a nine month long affair with a woman out of town. His wife worked nights so it was easy for him to do this. He'd meet her half way. After some time, he begant o feel guilty and he confessed. Not only did he confess to HER, but he personally called her parents, his parents, his brother, Shane, her twin sister, etc. He confessed to all of these people without being prompted to do so. He also agreed to couple's counseling and they are doing very well. Shane begged her not to leave his cousin. Shane was married to her twin and told this woman she was better than her sister and to not quit this marriage. She never went anywhere. She stayed. They worked thru it. Yes, she still has her days. But they are doing well.

I admire her for doing what she did and I often wonder if Shane were to do that (which he wouldn't and I know this) would I stay? I know I love him more than I ever loved my ex. Would I be able to look at him the same way again?

What would you do?

Mel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 8:36pm
I've been through this once before and no, I wouldn't stay to try to work it out, again. I would go get my head examined because I'm obviously attracting a certain kind of man if it happens AGAIN with someone new.

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