Wow, just wow... Intimidating guy update
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| Sun, 09-21-2008 - 8:13am |
Someone breakout the fan.. cause I may need to be cooled off after this report! First of all, I can't call him intimidating man anymore. So since Rlch's German Guy is gone, we're going to snag "German". He moved here when he was a teenager from Germany. He still has the slightest bit of an accent when he really gets going with a story that just puts butterflies in my stomach its so cute!
Oh where to begin! Well, this was the most amazing short little coffee date EVER! I was so nervous when I pulled up I didn't even want to get out of my car! We met for coffee over on his perfect little nook of town that intimidates me! lol. I was on my way to work, and in my scrubs and had all my gear on LOL. I walked up towards the coffee shop and I could see him with his back facing me, I knew it was him. I leaned over the fence and said "pst!" haha. He turned around and gave me the sweetest longest hug ever! I can't remember ever getting a hug that sweet and that long! We walked into the coffee shop together, and he held the door for me, then reached down and held my hand. I was thinking omg are you kidding me? Is this guy to good to be true or WHAT? The entire thing was ladies first, manners all the way, chair pulled out, doors opened.. I was wowed.
When we got our coffee we went back outside to the table he had on the patio where he left his jacket. Well, we sit down and he pulls out a bouquet of flowers out from under his jacket! Now, these were not just ANY flowers!! He goes grocery shopping for his mother every Saturday, and he told her he had a date that day. She told him to go pick some flowers out of her garden for me! So he picked some pretty lavendar flowers, then went to the grocery store and put some babies breath around them and had them wrapped up. OMG!! He was so proud that he arranged them all himself haha. Since I'm working the next four days (12 hours a day) I put them in water at work so we're all enjoying them there :)
At one point I tripped over my tongue, and I said I'm sorry I'm just really nervous! He said Oh I am too! And I remembered seeing his hand shake a bit when I first got there, and just thought I was imagining it haha.
Anyway, so the conversation was wonderful, eye contact was amazing, hands held on and off the entire time, and I had another great and wonderful long hug goodbye. I'm such a dork.. as he's hugging me I said "You're smelling my hair aren't you?" He laughed and said yes. It was all just great! The entire time it felt like we were the only two people on earth... work? I have to go to work? What work?! lol.. I hated to leave I was having such a great time.
He is so handsome, so polite, has the most amazing smile, and really just a beautiful person inside and out I'm seeing. I had to attach a picture so you all can see.. I really do need to be fanned off here. This short little date left my head spinning, me smiling all night long at work! What really has me excited about this one is that there are no "buts" (YET!! lol). There's no bad timing of a recent separation, or crazy school schedule... we're both in the exact same place wanting the exact same things. So at least the foundation is there that I have not had recently with men I've dated. I'm really excited to see how this one plays out. Wow, just wow!

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When I have been on first meetings (dates?), I've been kissed and have kissed with women telling me how nice the kiss has been with a second date planned. I have gotten emails back telling me that there was no chemistry and they have changed their mind for a second date.
I am sharing this because we are all human and that sometimes we need that hand holding, kissing, whatever else to help determine chemistry and thinking about it after the fact.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
good to see what you look like amanda!
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Well, I responded very sweetly to Mr. German. I originally msg'd him on POF giving him words of encouragement regarding his profile which explains some of my email to him. I also had sent him my favorite motivational story about the mule in the well (google it if you'd like) when I first emailed him. So I sent him the following email and then cut and paste the article that was posted here recently that I really really liked (Cut and Paste NOT linked! lol)
(http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=13375.1&ctx=128)
Oh, and we've had so many deep conversations that this email is nothing out of the ordinary.. its very much in the way we have been speaking to eachother for the past few weeks.
So.. this is what I had to say...
And his response... Wow, this man could possibly be single forever. I'm not even sure what to think of this... Someone please tell me that the last line in this email is not him (YET ANOTHER) hinting around about some kind of bed buddy situation because I think I will vomit and lose all faith in men forever. Am I reading that wrong? I did like three backtakes on that line thinking.. WHAT!?!?
Wow TJ...
I am just now reading the saga of the German. I was on cloud nine with you when I read the coffee date story..then dipped low with you when I read the follow up emails. Geez, I'm sorry..
I agree with Isys that at the very least, it is good he did not ghost you. He was honest and that is one good thing out of a bunch of suck.
And that last line would make me delete him from all contacts. Because on one hand he says he is in search of his true love yada yada violins playing...then in the next breath he hints that he'll throw you the FWB bone WHEN he gets the time. Uh, no! I would wish his well in his quest for his soul mate but I would make it clear there will be no "no strings attached" kind of "dating.
Hugs!!!! I'm sorry TJ...but I'm glad you got to get out there and chalk it up for experience.
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